This is a guest post by Z.R. Moore.
Wondering why your relationship failed?
Relationships have many reasons for failing.
There are some absolute deal breakers that legitimately end partnerships everyday. The most popular of these are cheating, abuse, and bad habits.
However, there are also many relationships that end for less extreme reasons. These aren’t the typical devastators that befall doomed relationships.
Most of the reasons are very fixable if you can spot them. I’m going to go over ten common reasons why relationships fail so you can see if any of these fit your situation.
10 Common Reasons Why Relationships End
I should be clear. This is going to require some honesty and transparency on your part. If you really want to avoid future failures, then perhaps it is time to come clean.
If your relationship hasn’t failed yet, but appears to be headed in that direction, then maybe there is still time to save it. However, I have to warn you, there are several myths about forgiveness that you need to address if you hope to get things back on track.
If you can identify the problem and work toward forgiveness, then hopefully things can still work out.
Here are 10 common reasons relationships fail:
Stubbornness in a relationship can lead to a premature end. Being rigid, restrictive, and inflexible can make participating in a union impossible. When you’re in a relationship, you’ll always have to compromise. A compromise is a win-win for both parties. Both of you lose when one has to assume all the loss to resolve a conflict.
Indifference in a relationship tells the other person that you don’t care about them like you should. To be honest, you actually don’t care about them like you’re supposed to if you’re capable of being indifferent towards them. By showing your significant other that you don’t actually care about their feelings, and thoughts you’re not actually giving them enough incentive to stay with you.
Selfishness brings about an end to a lot of relationships. Selfishness shows just how unwilling you are to give to the other person. A relationship is about reciprocity, and there is a reasonable expectation to get what you give. When you’re unwilling to be selfless the other person in the relationship has no reason to want stay. Nobody wants to be in a situation where they’re being neglected and overlooked. You have to learn to love your mate selflessly if you want your relationship to succeed.
Most people want to be with someone who is on the same level of maturity as they are. When you have to deal with someone who you have to discipline, instruct, and mentor like a child, it makes it hard to respect him or her as an equal partner. Immaturity strains the relationship since it takes the wisdom of both parties to operate an adult relationship.
Lack of understanding
The whole point of getting to know someone in a relationship is so that you’ll have a better understanding of who they are. Often times, most people only seek to gain understanding of a person up to a certain point. The decision to enter into a partnership with them is based on half the information needed to make an informed decision. That’s why most times people are ambushed by certain behaviors their mate may exhibit as the relationship progresses. Understanding the whole person makes a relationship stronger, and easier for both people to be in.
Lack of support
Support is key in making relationships work. When you’re with someone who doesn’t support your dreams or your needs it makes it difficult to support them in return. When neither party is supportive of the other, the relationship will inevitably come to an end.
Relationships require work. Most people think that they’ve done all the work that they needed to do in the beginning. In order to maintain a relationship, you have to continually put in the effort to make it work. A set it and forget it attitude about your relationship will lead to that partnership ending.
Some folks don’t realize that you have to treat your significant other as well as you treated them when you were courting them. Some people tend to think that it doesn’t matter how you treat someone since they already love you and understand how you are. No matter how long you’ve been with someone you always have an obligation to treat that person with the utmost respect. If you can’t respect them then why do they want or need to be there?
Stress and pressure in a relationship can make it extremely hard to continue with your partnership. People most times feel like they have to live up to certain standards because of who they are, where they’re from, and what they do. This pressure can cause a lot of problems in the relationship by taking away attention that should be focused on making the relationship stronger. When this happens, it’s only a matter of time before the relationship is over.
Communication is key in all relationships. Unfortunately, a lot of people tend to think that just because someone loves them they automatically understand them. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Developing effective communication skills can only strengthen the partnership you have with your mate. Bad communication definitely leads to a failed relationship.
Save Your Relationship From Failure
The majority of the time the reasons relationships fail are easy enough to fix if both parties can identify what the actual issues are. By being brave enough to admit to the problem, you can certainly save your relationship from disaster.
If you need help, then check out these ideas to make your relationship last or engage the services of a relationship coach or other professional.
About the Author
Z.R. Moore is a life and relationship coach, author, and freelance writer. She created A Better You blog that is full of professional relationship advice, personal development, and self-improvement tips.