10 Ways Being Nice Is Good For You

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helping hand thumb 10 Ways Being Nice Is Good For You Did you know that being nice to others can actually be good for you?

My mother always chided me to be nice.  Sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn’t.  After all, we all get grumpy from time-to-time and take it out on those around us.

We can see that being nice to others is good for them, but did you know it is in your best interest too?  Recognizing the personal benefits of being nice might motivate us to do it a little more often like when that person cuts us off in traffic.  icon smile 10 Ways Being Nice Is Good For You

What does it mean to be nice?

Niceness is rather vague.  What exactly does it mean to be nice? 

Well, in my mind, it means being kind, generous, agreeable, pleasant, respectable, friendly, forgiving and tactful.  It means going out of your way to treat others in the way that you want to be treated.

The best portion of a good man’s life – his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love. 
~William Wordsworth

Being nice when you get cut off in traffic, means that instead of assuming the driver is an insane jerk and giving them the bird, you give them the benefit of the doubt.  Maybe they didn’t see you or maybe they were late for a very important meeting or maybe they just made a mistake. 

Why not just smile and let it go?  It is good for you to be nice in these situations.

Being nice also means doing kind acts.  It means volunteering, donating and pitching in to make your home, neighborhood and community a better place. 

It means offering yourself to a cause that you believe to be worthwhile.  This might be something big like saving the environment or little like helping your spouse carry in the groceries.

Nice is such a small word, but it has big implications.  It takes a little time and effort, but it is all so incredibly worth it.

How being nice is good for you, let me count the ways

First, let me say, that I don’t mean to turn being nice into something selfish.  We should certainly strive to be nice for altruistic reasons alone, but knowing the personal benefits might motivate us to be nice a little more often.  That’s my intention here.

Here are ten ways that being nice is good for you:

1.  Being nice leads people to like you

It is much easier to like someone that is nice.  We all want friends that are kind, giving and considerate.  We want and need people in our lives that support us and that will be there for us when we need them.  The old saying, “Be a friend to have a friend” really holds true and research shows that those with a greater social network are often happier, healthier and more productive!

2.  Kindness promotes confidence and optimism

Doing kind acts and being nice builds one’s confidence and optimism.  It just makes us feel good about ourselves when we do things for others.  Giving of ourselves to others builds up our positive self-image.  It also gives us a sense of hope.  We feel more powerful and in control when we make a positive difference in the life of another.

3.  Niceness makes you feel good about yourself

Haven’t you heard that it is better to give than to receive?!?  In fact, studies have shown that the giver usually has a bigger boost in positive emotions than the receiver!  Being kind and nice really is good for you.  It gives you that warm, fuzzy feeling all over.  Of course, these positive feelings carry over into all areas of your life causing a general improvement in well-being.  This translates into feeling good about yourself.  What a bonus!

4.  People will reciprocate in your time of need

From time-to-time, we all face challenges, disappointments and losses in our lives.  When you’ve been nice to others during their struggles, it is more likely they will return the favor during your time of need.  This is just human nature.  Most of us feel really motivated to help those that have helped us.  Stephen Covey described this as the emotional bank account.

5.  Doing good deeds adds meaning and significance to your life

When you donate money to further a good cause or volunteer your time to help build a house for an underprivileged family or go visit a friend in the hospital, your life suddenly becomes much more meaningful and significant.  You are making this world a slightly better place with your acts of kindness.  This is valuable and it makes us feel important which is something we all want.

6.  Being a volunteer can help you discover hidden talents

Volunteering is a great way to be nice.  It can also help you to uncover talents you didn’t know you had.  They say that necessity is the mother of invention.  Well, when you put yourself in a position to see the needs of others, you might rise to the occasion and discover capabilities that you never knew you had.  This can be fun and exciting!

7.  Being a do-gooder relieves stress and guilt

Being nice and doing good deeds is a less stressful way to live.  It creates less conflict and avoids feelings of guilt over bad behavior.  In addition, the act of doing something nice for another generates those great feelings that seem to trump all that stress that we build up from daily living.

8.  Helping others will make you feel thankful and advantaged

When we engage in assisting others in their time of need, we often walk away feeling better about our situation.  We naturally compare our lives to those that we are helping.  This comparison can leave you feeling more grateful for the life you have.  You’ll be able to see just how advantaged you are!

9.  Being nice fosters a greater sense of family and community

Your niceness will lead you to meet all kinds of people and get involved in a plethora of worthwhile activities.  This builds a greater sense of togetherness.  Even within your own family unit, you can foster an increased sense of connectedness and fondness toward one another by being extra thoughtful.  Being nice has a powerful effect!

10.  Engaging in generous acts distracts you from your own troubles

Doing nice things for others can serve as a useful distraction from the the challenges you face.  If you are trying to quit a bad habit, then generously engage yourself in helping others to keep your mind off of smoking or eating or biting your nails.  This is an excellent strategy that profits you and others!

Go be nice and you’ll experience many positive benefits!

As you can see from the list above, being nice has many benefits.  Wouldn’t the world be such a better place if we were all just a little nicer today?  We would all feel so much better about one another and ourselves too!  I challenge you to increase your effort at being nice and see for yourself what it does for your attitude and happiness.

What other benefits are there to being nice?

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33 thoughts on “10 Ways Being Nice Is Good For You

  1. I think that being nice has gotten lost in the shuffle. We went out to eat with 3 other people last weekend. The waitress was frazzled and the kitchen ran out of a couple things. 3 of us had to choose something else to order – you know – it was one of those experiences. Two of the people that we were with complained the entire time and acted annoyed with the waitress (who clearly felt awful). I don’t think they had a very good time because they were so busy complaining to the waitress. Myself, hubby and the other person enjoyed each other’s company, had a nice meal and showed sympathy to the waitress. I left there feeling good while the 2 complainers were still all riled up.

    Be nice! It’s good for others AND good for yourself.
    .-= Nicki at Domestic Cents´s last blog ..Sensible Review: Recipe Zaar =-.

  2. @Nicki – I think a lot of people think the idea of being nice is just corny. However, I hope they can see from my list and your example that it really is a valid path to a better life. Good for you taking the high road and not letting some minor inconveniences steal an enjoyable evening from you!

    @Positively – I’m sure we could all work a little harder at being nice. I hope others will see the benefits by reading this post and commit themselves to it for their own sake and for the sake of everyone around them.

    Thanks for the great comments!

  3. Nice post :)

    I liked this bit……
    Being nice when you get cut off in traffic, means that instead of assuming the driver is an insane jerk and giving them the bird, you give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they didn’t see you or maybe they were late for a very important meeting or maybe they just made a mistake.

    It just makes you feel bad if you get angry and thats not good for you.

    I bet we could all try harder :) Thanks, this was interesting.

  4. @michelledh – We are all so predisposed to defending ourselves when we feel we’ve been ever so slightly wronged. We go about mad at someone all too often. The traffic situation is a great example and so is the one that Nicki mentioned in the restaurant. Why let these simple circumstances that are so benign ruin your day? Be nice and you’ll be amazed at how much better your life will become.

    Thanks for letting me know you liked the article!

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  6. Great post. Niceness is something I’ve always firmly believed in wholeheartedly. My workplace would not ascribe to this ideal though even though one of our core values is “Assume Positive Intent.” It would go a long way to everyone’s health and well being to just take a deep breath before you let loose. Technology certainly doesn’t help in this regard either, if you are a faceless avatar on IM, twitter, email etc. I’m sharing this one.
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  8. Yes, being nice has its benefits. Of course we need to be cautious of being “too nice”. Sometimes, being nice lead me to believe that I shouldn’t say “No”. Sometimes, when I don’t have time, I tend to say “yes” just because I want to be nice :-0) Working.. on graciously saying NO :-)

  9. Jeff, fantastic article and well done!

    “Being nice when you get cut off in traffic, means that instead of assuming the driver is an insane jerk and giving them the bird, you give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they didn’t see you or maybe they were late for a very important meeting or maybe they just made a mistake.

    Why not just smile and let it go? It is good for you to be nice in these situations.”

    I need to learn to be nicer and stop assuming the worst. My new tactic when traffic aggravates me is to start singing. :-)
    .-= Stephen – Rat Race Trap´s last blog ..Get High on Life With Enthusiasm =-.

  10. Great article Jeff,

    It can take some practice to be nice under pressure, but it’s well worth the effort. When we are not nice it usually means that our emotions are all stirred up. That’s not the most peaceful or resourceful state. Being nice helps us to remain calm on the inside, definitely a better state than all stirred up. We really owe it to ourselves to follow the suggestions you offered here. We’ll be happier and healthier if we do.
    .-= Jonathan – Advanced Life Skills´s last blog ..Just For Fun! =-.

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  12. Really great post!

    Being nice is under-rated – as if there’s something wrong with being kind and compassionate. I find that being nice relieves a lot of stress because I don’t feel the anger and frustration in potentially aggravating situations. Being nice and being ‘not nice’ is a choice and nice is way easier in the long run because there are so few regrets (if any!).
    .-= Laurie | Express Yourself to Success´s last blog ..Leadership Communication During Uncertain Times =-.

  13. I’ve always heard that being nice is contagious, but I believe the opposite to be true, being a jerk is contagious. Being nice is closer to being neutral, but at least you aren’t “infecting” anyone with your negativity.

    The upside is that by presenting the ways that being nice is beneficial to the person, you’ve made it more likely for the selfish, negative person to be receptive to the idea. And maybe one day, they’ll decide to give it a try, and realize how toxic the “other” people are, and how they used to be one.
    .-= Trey – Swollen Thumb Entertainment´s last blog ..The Star Wars Kid Is A Crybaby =-.

  14. Becoming a mother helped me with my driving manners. My son would always say, “What did you say Mommy?” It made me think about my actions and I would have to admit to him that, “Mommy was being impatient, Honey. I wasn’t considering that that driver may have a valid reason for his/her actions.” It brought about many discussions – as I tried to teach him to someday become a courteous driver I learned to be more courteous myself…

    Having a little imitator watching your actions helps you to evaluate many of your actions and views on life – for the better! Best thing I could have done.

    Thanks for the inspiring post.

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  18. This is a nice article itself. Have just felt good reading it. I have been wondering why cheerful people have many friends. Nice to discover that it just by being nice. I feel good!

  19. The best portion of a good man’s life – his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.
    ~William Wordsworth

    Oh William Wordsworth how wrong you are, This quote and and post is such bull it’s almost amusing. Being nice doesn’t get you anywhere in today’s world, It no longer has any use or affect in our society. No longer is kindness and courtesy a worthwhile trait to have and it’s a waste of time to try and be “nice” if it’s not sincere in the first place. “Kindness promotes confidence and optimism” any source or link to a study on this? it seems like it would be the total opposite to me. Being nice to someone doesn’t automatically make others nicer to you, kindness isn’t contagious as much as you would like to think. You can be kind and caring but it just makes it that much easier for people to knock you down or take advantage of you. Today “nice” is a weakness and will hold you back and if you’re searching online for reasons to be nice you probably have low confidence or feel like people don’t like you much in the first place. Heck being rude and stubborn has more of a benefit to you although I don’t recommend it.

    Be confident.
    Be optimistic.
    Be yourself.

    But don’t be nice.

  20. Hi there yes I do have troble sometimes being nice. I was always a nice person to others. Just the past few years i have changed which maybe I should not of changed like that. My life was getting harder because of medical problems etc. I now have a girlfriend and we get along great. I use to work with her like 15 years ago. It’s funny how life goes so fast..

  21. I must admit I’m not that nice all the time! haha!

    Sometimes you have to be rude to the people who doesn’t deserve of your kindness.


  22. It is a great feeling being nice. As far back as I can remember I have always been quiet and naturally nice. The best feeling was when 2 of my cousins and I helped an old man to find his wife’s grave on christmas day, he was so happy he was crying.

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