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]]> By: Mike King http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/comment-page-1/#comment-1538 Mike King Fri, 04 Jul 2008 06:21:32 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/#comment-1538 Great post about how to deliver a sincere apology. I definitely agree with you about how important one can be and the impact it can have to further a relationship or to repair a broken one. Its not hard to do and feels great once its actually done! Great post about how to deliver a sincere apology. I definitely agree with you about how important one can be and the impact it can have to further a relationship or to repair a broken one. Its not hard to do and feels great once its actually done!

]]> By: Bobby Saini http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/comment-page-1/#comment-1533 Bobby Saini Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:51:12 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/#comment-1533 Great post! You really dug deep to define the meaning of a true apology. What was really interesting was how you mentioned not to apologize until you truly feel sorry. On multiple occasions I have seen people apologize due to pressure from their friends/family circle, even if they truly didn't feel sorry. Eventually, leading to greater conflict down the road. What would be an ideal way to handle a situation like this? Great post! You really dug deep to define the meaning of a true apology. What was really interesting was how you mentioned not to apologize until you truly feel sorry.

On multiple occasions I have seen people apologize due to pressure from their friends/family circle, even if they truly didn’t feel sorry. Eventually, leading to greater conflict down the road. What would be an ideal way to handle a situation like this?

]]> By: Jeff http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/comment-page-1/#comment-1526 Jeff Wed, 02 Jul 2008 20:55:51 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/#comment-1526 Ryan - You have made some excellent points. I especially like your comments about how to handle the situation where you were initially right, but overreacted. I have been in this situation and as you point out, you still have to apologize for your behavior. Sometimes, we have to ask ourselves if we would rather be right or get along. Usually, getting along is the better option if the relationship means something to us. Thanks for visiting and commenting! Ryan – You have made some excellent points. I especially like your comments about how to handle the situation where you were initially right, but overreacted. I have been in this situation and as you point out, you still have to apologize for your behavior.

Sometimes, we have to ask ourselves if we would rather be right or get along. Usually, getting along is the better option if the relationship means something to us.

Thanks for visiting and commenting!

]]> By: Ryan Stephens http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/comment-page-1/#comment-1524 Ryan Stephens Wed, 02 Jul 2008 20:25:40 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/#comment-1524 Jeff I always used to tell my buddies when apologizing to their significant others to say, "You were right. I was wrong. I'm sorry," and that 9 times out of 10 that would do the trick. I was only half-kidding. Your post is an excellent resource for those wishing to make a sincere apology. Your explanation on how to negotiate apologizing in a timely fashion, but being under control of your emotions is a -very- good point. As far as apologizing too often... you could go further to say that if you're someone who apologizes all the time you probably lack the self confidence to stand behind your own beliefs, and you're apologizing for virtually no reason. Insecurity isn't flattering. In the case that you really believe you were initially right; however, you overreacted I like to still apologize for losing control, but come up with a scenario that puts them in their shoes. If you approach issues with, "This is how you made me feel," as opposed to "I'm right, you're wrong," you'll find you have to apologize a lot less. Again. Good post! Jeff

I always used to tell my buddies when apologizing to their significant others to say, “You were right. I was wrong. I’m sorry,” and that 9 times out of 10 that would do the trick. I was only half-kidding.

Your post is an excellent resource for those wishing to make a sincere apology. Your explanation on how to negotiate apologizing in a timely fashion, but being under control of your emotions is a -very- good point.

As far as apologizing too often… you could go further to say that if you’re someone who apologizes all the time you probably lack the self confidence to stand behind your own beliefs, and you’re apologizing for virtually no reason. Insecurity isn’t flattering.

In the case that you really believe you were initially right; however, you overreacted I like to still apologize for losing control, but come up with a scenario that puts them in their shoes. If you approach issues with, “This is how you made me feel,” as opposed to “I’m right, you’re wrong,” you’ll find you have to apologize a lot less.

Again. Good post!

]]> By: Jeff http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/comment-page-1/#comment-1523 Jeff Wed, 02 Jul 2008 15:23:44 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/#comment-1523 @B - There is a certain art to effective apologizing. As you point out, subtleties in tone of voice and choice of words is important. However, generally if your heart is in the right place, these things will fall in line. @FD - You absolutely have to take responsibility if you want your apology to be truly effective. Great example! Thanks so much for contributing your thoughts! @B – There is a certain art to effective apologizing. As you point out, subtleties in tone of voice and choice of words is important. However, generally if your heart is in the right place, these things will fall in line.

@FD – You absolutely have to take responsibility if you want your apology to be truly effective. Great example!

Thanks so much for contributing your thoughts!

]]> By: Frugal Dad http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/comment-page-1/#comment-1522 Frugal Dad Wed, 02 Jul 2008 12:56:15 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/#comment-1522 I've noticed some people have a terrible habit of apologizing without accepting responsibility. It sounds like this, "I'm sorry you got upset with me." No, it should be, "I'm sorry I acted like a jerk!" Don't apologize by putting the guilt on the other person; it isn't helpful in moving past the pain you've caused. Great post! I’ve noticed some people have a terrible habit of apologizing without accepting responsibility. It sounds like this, “I’m sorry you got upset with me.” No, it should be, “I’m sorry I acted like a jerk!” Don’t apologize by putting the guilt on the other person; it isn’t helpful in moving past the pain you’ve caused. Great post!

]]> By: B Smith @ Wealth and Wisdom http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/comment-page-1/#comment-1521 B Smith @ Wealth and Wisdom Wed, 02 Jul 2008 12:43:46 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/11-ways-to-make-your-apologies-more-meaningful-and-effective/#comment-1521 Jeff-Great post. This goes hand in hand with taking personal responsibility. While it is sometimes hard admitting you did something wrong and apologizing is a big step. As you said it must be free of blame and you must be ready to really apologize. I also am cautious on how I say it. Just a slight change of words has a big difference. If I personally have done something wrong I use the words <em>I'm sorry</em>. This puts a personal touch on it and implies that I have personally done something wrong. If it was someone else-say my co worker or my factory-then I use the words <em>I apologize</em>. This takes the personal aspect away while still leaving the recipient with the knowledge that you hate what was done and want to make amends. Jeff-Great post. This goes hand in hand with taking personal responsibility. While it is sometimes hard admitting you did something wrong and apologizing is a big step. As you said it must be free of blame and you must be ready to really apologize.

I also am cautious on how I say it. Just a slight change of words has a big difference. If I personally have done something wrong I use the words I’m sorry. This puts a personal touch on it and implies that I have personally done something wrong. If it was someone else-say my co worker or my factory-then I use the words I apologize. This takes the personal aspect away while still leaving the recipient with the knowledge that you hate what was done and want to make amends.

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