Comments on: Are You A Control Freak In Your Relationships? http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/ Tips, Motivation, and Resources for Living Life to the Fullest! Fri, 30 Jul 2010 16:54:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Aaron http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-6992 Aaron Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:15:11 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/#comment-6992 Interesting article, I found another one that goes into the narcissistic tendencies as well, where we can talk incessantly of ourselves and be convinced that everyone is fascinated. When others turn the conversation to themselves we show disinterest and manipulate it back to ourselves. I am definetely a control freak and show a lot of the symptoms, it is time for me to rid myself of this and have healthy relationships I know I have many good qualities and have spent years managing other illnesses that I have, now it is time to finalise it and chill some more. Interesting article, I found another one that goes into the narcissistic tendencies as well, where we can talk incessantly of ourselves and be convinced that everyone is fascinated. When others turn the conversation to themselves we show disinterest and manipulate it back to ourselves. I am definetely a control freak and show a lot of the symptoms, it is time for me to rid myself of this and have healthy relationships I know I have many good qualities and have spent years managing other illnesses that I have, now it is time to finalise it and chill some more.

]]> By: Andre http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-2224 Andre Fri, 10 Oct 2008 15:15:18 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/#comment-2224 When you're the man of the house, why the hell shouldnt you be in control? After all isnt it your paycheck, your sweat and blood that makes the family function? If I make a rule thats in the familys best interest, shouldnt it be followed? Just because I command respect doesnt mean Im a control "freak", someone has to be in control. This was obviuosly written by a woman who was controlled, not the man in charge. A control freak has to have EVERYTHING his way, im just Large and in Charge. When you’re the man of the house, why the hell shouldnt you be in control? After all isnt it your paycheck, your sweat and blood that makes the family function? If I make a rule thats in the familys best interest, shouldnt it be followed? Just because I command respect doesnt mean Im a control “freak”, someone has to be in control. This was obviuosly written by a woman who was controlled, not the man in charge.

A control freak has to have EVERYTHING his way, im just Large and in Charge.

]]> By: Mani Goel http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-2128 Mani Goel Mon, 22 Sep 2008 10:58:22 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/#comment-2128 Excellent post. I love it <abbr><em>Read Mani Goel's lastest article - <a href="http://powerofselfesteem.com/2008/09/self-esteem-activites/" rel="nofollow">Self Esteem Activites</a></em></abbr> Excellent post. I love it

Read Mani Goel’s lastest article – Self Esteem Activites

]]> By: Ladybeams http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-2093 Ladybeams Tue, 16 Sep 2008 06:00:27 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/#comment-2093 I didn't think I was a control freak, but I may be. This was great reading, and I love how you used "we" as if you are one too, even if you're not. When it comes to lack of delegation, I have become like that because I live with a passive aggressive. Anyone who's been in that type of relationship for any length of time knows they cannot delegate to them and keep your sanity. LOL. I do have a tendancy to give advice, because I'm old, "been there, done that". If they choose not to take my advice that's up to them. I do understand people have to make their own experiences and mistakes. Fear- Yeah, but only because they know as well as I do I asked "nicely" 50 times before I went psycho. Then they want to fix it, but then it's too late. You should have fixed it after I asked the 49th time. LOL. I didn’t think I was a control freak, but I may be. This was great reading, and I love how you used “we” as if you are one too, even if you’re not.

When it comes to lack of delegation, I have become like that because I live with a passive aggressive. Anyone who’s been in that type of relationship for any length of time knows they cannot delegate to them and keep your sanity. LOL.

I do have a tendancy to give advice, because I’m old, “been there, done that”. If they choose not to take my advice that’s up to them. I do understand people have to make their own experiences and mistakes.

Fear- Yeah, but only because they know as well as I do I asked “nicely” 50 times before I went psycho. Then they want to fix it, but then it’s too late. You should have fixed it after I asked the 49th time. LOL.

]]> By: Jeff http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-2060 Jeff Wed, 10 Sep 2008 19:36:31 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/#comment-2060 @Mary and @Cheryl - You make an excellent point. There is such a thing as positive control that is very important to becoming successful. However, this does differ from being a control freak which tries to micro-manage everything and everybody. If you find the people in your life responding negatively to your control, then you might be a control freak. Another way to tell is to just ask those around you, if you dare! Thanks for pointing this out! @Mary and @Cheryl – You make an excellent point. There is such a thing as positive control that is very important to becoming successful. However, this does differ from being a control freak which tries to micro-manage everything and everybody.

If you find the people in your life responding negatively to your control, then you might be a control freak. Another way to tell is to just ask those around you, if you dare!

Thanks for pointing this out!

]]> By: Cheryl Cran http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-2058 Cheryl Cran Wed, 10 Sep 2008 19:11:58 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/#comment-2058 Hi there I agree with Mary- I wrote a book called "The Control Freak Revolution" (Career Press 2008) aimed at people taking positive control in the workplace. Believe it or not many people do not know that any of their behaviors are controlling. You can usually tell because people will avoid you, not invite you for lunch and generally have a look of dread when you walk up to them. However taking positive control means valuing yourself and others while taking positive action to create what you want in life. Hi there I agree with Mary- I wrote a book called “The Control Freak Revolution” (Career Press 2008) aimed at people taking positive control in the workplace. Believe it or not many people do not know that any of their behaviors are controlling. You can usually tell because people will avoid you, not invite you for lunch and generally have a look of dread when you walk up to them. However taking positive control means valuing yourself and others while taking positive action to create what you want in life.

]]> By: Mary@SimplyForties http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-2045 Mary@SimplyForties Tue, 09 Sep 2008 18:52:43 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/#comment-2045 Alternatively, people do need to "take control" of their own lives and life choices. There are a lot of people out there who are waiting for their significant other to make all the choices. I hear a lot of "my husband/boyfriend/whomever won't let me." Taking control of the flow of your own life is not, of course, the same as being a control freak. Maybe the trick is to figure out which one is which! Alternatively, people do need to “take control” of their own lives and life choices. There are a lot of people out there who are waiting for their significant other to make all the choices. I hear a lot of “my husband/boyfriend/whomever won’t let me.” Taking control of the flow of your own life is not, of course, the same as being a control freak. Maybe the trick is to figure out which one is which!

]]> By: Glen Allsopp http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-2044 Glen Allsopp Tue, 09 Sep 2008 17:09:34 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/are-you-a-control-freak-in-your-relationships/#comment-2044 Great post, accept the person for who they are, habits and all. Being a control freak is probably pushing your partner away. <abbr><em>Read Glen Allsopp's lastest article - <a href="http://www.pluginid.com/art-of-authenticity/" rel="nofollow">The Art of Authenticity</a></em></abbr> Great post, accept the person for who they are, habits and all. Being a control freak is probably pushing your partner away.

Read Glen Allsopp’s lastest article – The Art of Authenticity

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