Jane from the article could also ‘fix’ her arthritis with natural means – my dad cured his rheumatism with nutrition and different lifestyle… Again, there are books and info online for this… And it can be MUCH better than relying on any doctors or prescriptions!! (Prescriptions just dull pain, nutrition & changed lifestyle can make pain disappear!!)

Moving elsewhere could be good too, yeah…
And looking at options available for homeless people and people without insurance etc. (So she can be a bit reassured there ARE programs and options for this!!)

If she has kids and grandkids she loves she could also move in with them, provided they agree… (some caution is needed there, and well-established boundaries ideally…) But it’s an option… Or she could share an appartment/house with a granddaughter or something (I LOVED living with my Granny some of the time!!) or another relative or friend/roommates/flatmates… There are ‘Granny appartments’ over garage or such… (where there may be more independence) Lots of options out there…

I’d also recommend she join a support group or something like that – there are great support groups for the elderly where I live, or maybe there can be church events and groups, charity etc. She could network with people and increase options for food/help etc.

Really great that your kids turned out well too… Too bad one of the kiddies had an accident and remaining problems, hope things got better for him?
If not, there are organisations who help such kiddies too (and their parents) hope you managed to find some!!
Intelligence and academic success is just one of god’s gifts and people can have SOOO many more blessings than just this!!
(In fact, some ‘intelligent/academically successful’ people can have WAY more troubles than ‘simple’ loving caring kiddies…)

Just maybe adjust your expectations? Also, please don’t blame yourself too much… Us kids can be selfish, I know, I blamed my parents often too, for not doing what I felt would be better, for not being better… (We still drive each other ‘crazy’ sometimes, we’re just very different or very alike in some cases…)

As for ‘brain fog’ and fibromyalgia, nutrition can make a difference too… There are articles and info online… Even headaches/tension/anxiety and such can come eg from magnesium deficiency etc.

Good luck to both of you, Motivator and Pixel!

If not, I hope you found some support group/s or something like that! With problems like these, it’s difficult to do it alone, or even with help of one person or one group…
There are online forums for psychological support and RL organisations and groups too, where at least you could find other people with similar (or worse) problems and some psychologist/coach etc to help.

Sorry to hear about your mum, losing relatives can suck big time, yeah… It takes longer or shorter time to recover for different people, please give yourself time to grieve and recuperate… Rome wasn’t built in one day…

There are different views and approaches to psychological problems and personality disorders and such, have you tried tweaking nutrition and natural means? going for a walk each day is free and can help a lot…
There are lots of interesting free things you can do (library, parks, art gallery openings, bookshop/cafe events etc) where you can also meet interesting people… In some places, you can even get some place to have a veggie garden for free and grow your own vegs, reducing the costs, and if the place is unpolluted (check on this first!) it can be healthier too…

Good luck and hope things get better!!

I have major regret, bad anxiety and Fibromyalgia because I didn’t do it when I should have.

Do not risk your children and your health/sanity by in-action. Living with these isn’t fun at all.

I feel blessed that my kids don’t hate me anymore for allowing them to be put through what they went through but that took a very long time to get to the point for them to be able to forgive me and move on in their own lives.

They turned out pretty darn good but some do not turn out good at all and they spiral down and blame you all their life, which in turn makes you feel guilty and regret that you didn’t do anything but stay. It is so NOT worth it!

I see kids today that are older than mine that act way worse due to stuff that happened to them, even less stuff my kids went through, and am so very thankful my kids turned out better than I could have ever asked for.

Please, do not give up and do not suffer your children. They will see you as a survivor and will learn from you and therefore be able to pull through tough times as they get older…you are their main support, mentor, and emotional support and they need you to be strong even when it hurts so very bad…I know, it kills me, pains me daily what I didn’t do and so I suffer in silence, not a fun thing at all!

Be Blessed in your decision =)

Hopeless. Trapped. There are no choices I can make that won’t result in emotional pain, financial insecurity, and frankly – fear. Fear for me and my family. So my choice has been in-action. I went online looking for something – which of course isnt here. I want to feel like I’m not alone in my despair.

I’ve been through a lot in my life. I’ve made hard choices – but this time do not feel I am able to. The pain of staying put is less than the pain and fear of making a choice – but it’s hurting my kids and I know I am capable of so much more.

Thank you Jeff and yes, we really are only promised this day and don’t know if we will even have tomorrow. Even in my situation I believe that I can, as I’m able to, walk to some of the businesses that surround me and just ask if they need help, if I can clean the restroom or fix a computer issue or wash dishes for a few bucks to help.

Those in a bad relationship: get the hell out!! Been there done that as there are shelters for women with children. Unfortunately for us without young children or with felonies can not do that in some states and cities BUT I do know that even without children anyone can at least get help with food using their state’s food program.

Blessed Be!