You ask, “What is the reason for waking up, besides the fact that it is inevitable?” That is the reason. Tomorrow is inevitable. Tomorrow is coming whether you want it to or not. So, you have a choice to make. What are you going to do with tomorrow?

Personally, I’d rather do something (whatever that might be) to feel of value to myself and the world around me instead of just staying stuck doing nothing and feeling depressed.

You may not be able to “fix” all your problems. Your new reality may be that you have to live with some significant limitations (to put it nicely). I know that sucks, but it is the cold, hard truth (how’s that for avoiding the corny b.s.?). HOWEVER, you still have the option to decide what you do with whatever is left of yourself. Obviously, you CAN do some things. You have access to a computer. You have an intelligent mind. You have some capabilities if you’ll just acknowledge them. How can you apply these to add meaning to your life?

Life has no doubt dealt you a tremendous blow. I’d like to erase all that for you, but I can’t and neither can you. I’d like to be able to tell you how to fix it all, but that’s not possible either. You are going to have to let go of your old life (as tough as that is) and move on. How will you start to build a NEW life given where you are at now?

Hopefully, you can begin again. Why not try to make something out of nothing? There’s the challenge you have to live for. To make something out of the crappy hand you’ve been dealt. Can you do it? I think you can if you’ll stop fixating on the negative and just try. You might be amazed at what happens.

Explain how someone who is chronically ill, who cannot afford school, has no job and is currently unable to work therefore has no money whatsoever, is supposed to view life positively and awake each day with a real sense of purpose, not some false distraction like taking a walk or gardening. I mean a real fix for this situation, a sense of excitement about tomorrow because they know for a fact good things are coming… faith and hope are fake and don’t change how things are… so by all means… show me what I missing. Please avoid the corny b.s. and actually analytically view the situation for what it is, without thinking that taking walks, talking to a counselor, gardening, or joining a book club will fix it.

What is the reason for waking up, besides the fact that its inevitable and “hoping” that things get better… tangibly and physically what is the reason

Also, I want to say that, in all fairness, there is no way that I can solve all your problems via this forum. Plus, I’m no “expert”. I’m just a regular guy, like you, trying to navigate life’s challenges the best way I can.

However, here’s what I can do for you. I can throw you some new insights to chew on to see if they help. You can toss them out if you’d like, but maybe they’ll help.

From the limited amount I know based on what you’ve written in your comments, here’s how I see where you are mentally.

You are completely focused on what you can’t do. You’ve mentally closed all the doors of possibility. In fact, you gave me a list of all the things that you are already convinced won’t work.

You are trapped feeling sorry for yourself which is understandable, but unproductive. This leads you to wanting to quit, to give up completely. You obviously aren’t there yet, because you are still reaching out trying to find a handhold so you can reel things back in. I commend you for that.

But, giving up is certainly one of your options. You, no doubt, are facing some tough odds and difficult struggles. So, you can accept defeat and go on being pissed about it.

But, where’s that going to get you?

I hear in your comments a desire for more. I hear a longing from inside you. Are you brave enough to acknowledge it?

Instead of giving up because things are hard (an understatement I know), why not do what you can? I mean it may not be as much, right now, as what you really want, but it will be something more than what you’ll get if you simply quit.

Lots of people face incredible struggles in their lives and look at what they do. Take Helen Keller, for example. She probably had more to overcome than you do and she still lived a productive, fulfilling life. I’m sure it wasn’t perfect, but it was better than the alternative.

I would ask you Jon, “What CAN you do?” Instead of making lists of what you CAN’T do, start making a list of possibilities. Again, they may not be perfect and you may hit a few dead-ends along the way (you’ve seen a few of these already), but don’t let that steal your entire life from you. Do what you CAN and build from there slowly, but surely.

Also, I want to point out that there are people out there willing to help you. Look at what is happening here. I don’t know you, but I’m taking time to try to help you. There are plenty of others that will do the same. They may not be knocking down your door, but you can find them if you’ll look and not push them away right from the start.

Again, you can call all this crap if you’d like. It is your life and your choice how you live it. I just wanted to point out that there is an alternative way to see your future if you choose to look at it through a different lens. I wish you all the best.

life is what it is…. and looking at it like its not… really won’t help

I am 25 years old, I am deaf in my right ear, I was diagnosed with a severe vestibular disease at 15, I suffer severe and random vertigo attacks every day and am unable to leave the house most days. I underwent cranial surgery in 2008. I live with my parents. I have no job and can’t work because I am chronically ill. I can’t attend school because my past student loans have become defaulted due to my inability to work and make payments, thus I can’t receive aid to attend school. I have been denied disability multiple times because my disease is not considered disabling as of today. My mother suffers from a terminal illness and does not leave the bed. I have no money, no means to make any money, and my friends have all moved on with their lives, as they should.

I am 7+ years behind those my own age in terms of life achievements. I have no goals at this point in time because I have no ability to reach them within the foreseeable future, and those I can reach I have never had the desire to obtain.

So please explain where the silver lining lies?

Please refrain from saying things such as “do you have relatives or friends willing to lend you money to attend school?”… “have you tried any out reach programs”…. “join a support group”…” or any variation of those because I have already exhausted those routes.

I am not religious so do not suggest that either….. so there you go sir… enlighten me… give me those rosey colored glasses.

Sometimes, hope is the only thing we have to hang on to. If you let go of that, what’s left? Bitterness? Defeat? Depression? What will those get you?

My approach, the one that tries to inspire some hope, may not be perfect, but I’ll take it any day over where you seem to be. It is each person’s choice how they view the world. I choose to believe that there are solutions. I believe that better days can be found. It isn’t always easy, but with a little faith and hard work, you can make a better life.

I know this works because I’ve lived it. I’ve been in the hole and I’ve climbed out. You, my friend, are still stuck in the hole. Will you choose to climb out or are you going to stay in there? It is pretty dark in your hole. Are you sure that’s where you want to be?

I sincerely wish you the best. I hope you find what you are looking for.