Build a New Life: 5 Steps to Get Started

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build a new life Build a New Life: 5 Steps to Get StartedDo you need a fresh start?

You can build a new life.  You have what it takes. You can rise up and reinvent yourself.

I know that some of you out there, for one reason or another, are back at square one.

Things didn’t turn out exactly like you planned.

That’s okay.  You may be down, but you are not out.  You can rebuild.  You can come back.  It may seem like a big, uphill journey, but I know you have it in you and I want to help.

All you need is a plan.  A path to follow.  A way to get your thoughts together and get headed down the right road again.  Re-establish some momentum and you’ll build a new life for yourself in no time.

5 Steps to Begin to Build a New Life

Once upon a time, my house was destroyed by an F5 tornado.  True story.  So, I know what it is like when you need to start over.

It is easy to get stuck in the quagmire of being overwhelmed.

It feels like you have too much to do.  Too many things and too many emotions.  It is a bad combination.

You want to shutdown.  You want it all to go away.  You wish it were a bad dream.

Been there, got the t-shirt.

I understand your situation.  But, I love you too much to let you wallow in that mess for too long.

It is time to start putting things back together.  It is time to start over.

Here are five steps to help you begin to build a new life:

1.  Let Go of the Past

I can’t emphasize this enough.  You cannot move forward building your new life until you make some peace with the past.  It isn’t easy and it doesn’t have to be completely settled, but you have to grieve your losses and decide you are going to go forward in spite of what you have to leave behind be it a business, a house, a loved one, a relationship, a job or something else.

I’m not telling you to forget.  I’m not telling you that you won’t still have that hole in your heart.  You may still have a bad day from time-to-time.  That’s okay.  However, slowly, but surely, you need to look to the future.

If you are struggling with this, then I’d highly recommend reading Forget the Past: Let It Go to Fly Higher.  Remember, it is time to build a new life.

2.  Develop a Vision for the Future

Before you can build a new life, you must get straight in your head what you want your tomorrow to look like.  You need a vision for the future.  Developing a plan for your life can be difficult.  I understand that.  But, having a dream or vision for what you want is essential.

I challenge you to just start thinking about it.  Here’s an article on developing a personal vision to get you going.

Once you have some ideas swirling in your head, it is time to get them down on paper. Nothing has to be written in stone, but getting your thoughts out of your head will help you to organize and clarify them.  This will likely lead to some dream for the future which is the seed you need for a plan to sprout.

By the way, if you’ve tried and failed to develop a personal vision, I’d highly recommend checking out Discover Your Passion.  This is not a free resource, but Barrie Davenport that developed the course, guarantees that you’ll find your life passion with it or she’ll coach you for free.  That’s a bold offer.  So, if you can’t decide what your future should look like, this might be a path you want to explore.

3.  Set Realistic Goals

The next step for you to build a new life is converting your vision into an actual plan. You do this by setting goals to move toward your ideal life.  In other words, your vision defines your desired destination.  Your goals are your map for getting there.

SMART goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timely.  Make sure your goals follow this model.  Overall, your goals don’t have to put a lot of pressure on you. In fact, if they do, they are probably counterproductive.  However, they should focus you in the right direction and propel you toward your destination.

To get started, I’d recommend creating small goals to begin with to help you achieve early wins and create momentum.  You can read about using incremental changes to improve your life for guidance on how to do this.

4.  Take Action

Okay, hopefully, by now you’ve created a vision for your future and laid out some specific goals to get what you want.  What’s the next step?  Taking action!

Having a plan is great, but to build a new life, you must roll up your sleeves and get to work.  The work is your therapy.  It will raise you up out of your doldrums and revive your passion for living, loving and laughing.

Each day, you will make a list of at least three small actions you need to take toward your goals.  You will ask yourself, “What can I do right now to move one tiny, baby step closer to my dream?”  After you’ve got your three things, go do them.  Do not go to bed at night until they are done.  Follow this advice and you’ll have a new life in no time.

5.  Nourish Yourself Along the Way

Finally, you need to attend carefully to yourself through this process.  Eat right, get plenty of rest and celebrate your victories.

You want to push yourself, but don’t ignore your physical and mental needs as you strive to rebuild your life.  That’s a huge mistake.  It will either lead to burnout or sickness – neither of which are good.  You have to pace yourself as all good athletes know to do.  Find your stride and keep plugging away.  Slow and steady wins the race.

It might take you weeks, months or even years to build a new life.  Find ways to nourish yourself along the way.  You need to tend to your motivation, education and relaxation to ensure your success.

Starting Over Is Possible

Do you believe you can build a new life?

It is possible.  It has been several years since the tornado hit my home and threw my life into turmoil.  I used the steps above to get things back to normal.  It worked like a charm for me and it can work for you too.

I wish you the best!

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3 thoughts on “Build a New Life: 5 Steps to Get Started

  1. Excellent advice, particularly your point about having a vision for the future. I actually wrote a book about resilience and according to scientific research on the subject the imperative of resilience is having a purpose. Everything else flows from that anchor … that thing, whatever it is, that gets you out of bed in the morning and putting one foot in front of another to move on with your life after a major life change or crisis.

  2. Hi Jeff,

    Thanks for linking to my article about developing a personal vision. I think your article above hits a lot of key points. I particularly like the last part about nourishing yourself along the way. Personal change takes a lot of conscious thought which in turn burns a lot of energy. We often forget to re-energise ourselves (both physically and mentally) as we undergo these changes which over time reduces our original motivation to make and maintain these changes.
    Brenton´s last [type] ..Long Overdue Lifestyle Design Update….

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