Comments on: Effective Apology: How To Say I Am Sorry

By: 21 Ways To Save Some Cash | The Wisdom Journal

21 Ways To Save Some Cash | The Wisdom Journal — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 00:40:10 +0000

[...] was the first person that popped into your mind when you read that? It’s never too late to call and ask forgiveness if you can’t go see them in person. Remember that no one has to forgive you just because you [...]

By: Mike King

Mike King — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 19:36:17 +0000

An excellent article on how to apologize well. I find that so many people add too much to an apology they make it a defense of their actions again instead of just apologizing and then being quite. The apology is supposed to end it, not continue the problem.... Thanks for the great article! Read Mike King´s latest article - Why Are You Waiting for Happiness? Have it NOW!

By: Ron@TheWisdomJournal

Ron@TheWisdomJournal — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 21:48:45 +0000

Something I've been told by counselors in the past it to never apologize in writing. It gives the offended person something to cling to in the event they just cannot bring themselves to forgive. It also gives others in the offended party's sphere of influence "proof" that YOU were the wrong party. You never know who will end up with that letter! So, like you said, apologize in person. Over the telephone as an absolute last resort. Read Ron@TheWisdomJournal´s latest article - The 12 Days of Christmas: Day Twelve - 12 Things I’ve Learned As A Blogger

By: SimplyForties

SimplyForties — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 23:36:36 +0000

Funny that you are posting this on Christmas Eve. Are you anticipating? Seriously, it's an important subject. Too many people are a little slow or too defensive with their apologies. The most important thing is sincerity. If you're going to say it, you'd better mean it! Read SimplyForties´s latest article - Having a Hard Time Getting Life Insurance?

By: Maria | Never the Same River Twice

Maria | Never the Same River Twice — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 14:17:59 +0000

I absolutely agree that step 5 is really important. Whenever I’ve tried to apologize and said too much, I just end up sounding like I’m not really apologizing!

Putting yourself out there in an apology is risky. The other person might not accept, or might get angry all over again. It’s really helpful, though, because it takes a lot of burden off of you.

By: Scott Rooks

Scott Rooks — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 11:16:38 +0000

Another interesting post and one that should have a lot of people thinking because most of us don't apologize. Not apologizing leads to excess baggage in our life and can haunt us for decades. It leads to dysfunctional behavior that can be the source of such malady's as drug addiction, alcoholism, pathlogical tendencies and more. It's a very positive move to sit down and think through our lives to discover the actions that we have not apologized for and recreate the facts and see with the eyes of our heart the damage and the hurt that may have transpired from that time. Then to get up and physically go to that person and apologize, if still possible. Even further to try and make amends by asking if there is anything you can possibly do to correct the wrong that you personally perpetrated upon that person. It will work wonders! I speak from personal experience when I say that it is extremely difficult and hurts to look at ways we have caused pain in someone's life but after the apology and amends it is life changing. Subconsciously we are relieved beyond words and we then tend to start thinking before we leap! Also the other person is relieved and in some cases becomes closer to the person who committed the wrong. Most of the time the person is so happy that you have seen the error of your ways that they don't need you to physically correct the action in some way or form. They now see you as a person of high standing! Jeff I recommend highly that everyone take your post to heart and give a proper apology as soon as they discover the wrong they have committed. Very truly a wonderful life changing subject, thanks! Read Scott Rooks´s latest article - Researching a Foundational Grant or Digging for Gold! Part2