Do you find yourself always looking back?
The best place to be for living life to the fullest is in the present moment. Drinking in the full experience of where you are right at this instant in your life and deciding how to use it to create success.
Your past successes can hold you back just as much as your past failures so there is no need to cling to either.
We all have a past. There are things in our past that we are proud of and things we are not. Either way, our past does not define us.
It is there, but there is nothing we can do about it so we should just let it go and move on.
Stop Looking Back and Move On
“One of the few things that can’t be recycled is wasted time.”
~ Sean Covey
The past is the past. It is what it is. We can’t change it. If it is negative, then it acts as an anchor holding us back. If it is positive, we can only lean on that so much and for so long.
Today is a new day. What are you going to do with it?
You might respond, “I just can’t forget what’s happened to me.” It could be something traumatic or it could be that you just can’t let go of what you used to be.
I know it isn’t easy. Letting go can be painful. It can even feel wrong in certain circumstances, but the only way we can move on is to let go.
Transform your past into motivation for your future. Use it to help you appreciate this moment and to drive you towards something better tomorrow. Don’t waste another minute letting your past hold you back. No one would want that.
This is up to you. You are the only one that can let it go. You are the only one that can decide to live today. You have the power to change. You have all you need to give yourself a better today and tomorrow. You just have to stop looking back and move on.
Don’t Let Your Past Success Hold You Back Either
“Pride comes before a fall.”
I mentioned earlier that our past successes can hold us back. I want to expand on this because it usually isn’t talked about much.
There are a couple of ways that past successes can hold you back.
The first is by leaning too heavily on them. It is easy to start coasting when you’ve experienced some success. You may think you’ve got it made, but this is a trap.
You can’t just ride past successes. Things change. It has happened to all kinds of people. They get fat, dumb and lazy and then BOOM! The world changes and they get caught flat-footed because they were leaning too heavily on their past performance.
No matter how much success you’ve experienced, there is more. You can fly higher and go farther. Why stop now? Push yourself to even greater heights!
The second way we let our past success hold us back involves our pride. You may have had a big success in your past, but now things are different. You’ve experienced a setback.
You may not be able to recreate that past success despite heroic efforts. Let it go. Start over. Go a completely new direction. This is sometimes hard because it involves swallowing our pride.
It may even require a temporary downgrade in lifestyle to make it happen. It is often hard to disclose to friends, family members and the community at large that you aren’t what you used to be.
Well, which is better? Becoming a has-been or reinventing yourself and emerging from the ashes a whole new success in life? The choice is up to you!
Three Ways to Forget the Past and Fly Higher
“If we don’t let go of the old, we’ll never be able to embrace the new.”
~ Joel Osteen
There is a method to forgetting the past. There are steps you can take to move yourself in the right direction and to open your mind to the possibilities this moment and the future holds. You’ve just got to want it. Do you want a better life? If so, I have some suggestions.
Here are three ways you can begin to forget the past:
1. Get Intentional
Set your mind to overcoming the past. Get determined about it. Once you have firmly decided that you are going to move on, then you have won a big part of the battle. Now you can face your past head on and begin to defeat it.
Often when we have a past that is holding us back, it involves other people that we believe wronged us in some way. If you are going to get over your past and move on, then you have to learn to forgive. Letting go of any stored up bitterness is essential to moving on. I know it isn’t easy, but dredge up all that old pain, get it out and let it go!
A big part of moving on is deciding to stop being the victim. Victims are helpless. You might have been a victim at one time, but you are not now. You have the power to change your circumstances. You just have to stand up and make it happen.
Begin by creating a vision for the really great life you want to live. Once you have a picture in your head of the life you desire, then start formulating a plan to make your dream a reality. I’d highly recommend reading One Small Step Can Change Your Life by Robert Maurer. This book will give you the tools you need to create a whole new life for yourself.
2. Seek Inspiration
Whatever your situation, someone else has been through it before and conquered it. You can learn from their experience and gain inspiration from their victory.
Search Amazon for books about people that faced the same struggles as you’ve faced and beat it. It doesn’t matter what you’re up against. You can find stories on how people have overcome:
- Job loss
- Sexual abuse
- Losing a spouse
- Financial ruin and bankruptcy
These stories are often very inspirational. We can feel we are alone and up against insurmountable odds. Reading about someone else that has beat a past similar to our own can often give us the motivation we need to turn the corner.
Books are not the only source of inspiration. One of the really great things about the Internet is its ability to give a voice to people of all different backgrounds. Beyond just books, you can also find a blog that will help you learn from the experience of others. Search Google or ask around a bit online to locate what you need.
3. Ask for Help
Finally, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes, we can’t see the forest for the trees. We might be just a little too close to our situation to effectively troubleshoot it for ourselves. The good news is that there are plenty of people that can help.
There is no need to continue drowning in your past. Reach out a hand to a counselor, therapist, support group, pastor, friend, family member, career coach, contact or co-worker. Ask for help and you are likely to get it.
The advice and support another person skilled in dealing with similar situations can offer is invaluable. They can likely give you a leg up that will catapult you well on your way toward success.
Don’t get discouraged if the first person you approach doesn’t respond as you might hope. I’d suggest making a list of three different people you can approach before you ask anyone for their help. This way you’ll already have a backup plan in mind if the first one doesn’t work out. This strategy will save you from further disappointment.
Do Whatever It Takes to Set Yourself Free From the Past
“I seldom end up where I wanted to go, but almost always end up where I need to be.”
~ Douglas Adams
It may be hard to see how right now, but you can turn your past to your advantage if you’ll just pick yourself up and start taking small steps in the right direction. It will be difficult at first, but it will get easier with just a little effort.
Don’t let yourself remain mired in the quicksand of your past another day. Go out there and make a life for yourself. Embrace the moment you have right now to make a positive difference. It is up to you. Will you let go of your past and build a better future?
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