Comments on: How To Be An Awesome Control Freak – Results May Vary http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/ Tips, Motivation, and Resources for Living Life to the Fullest! Fri, 30 Jul 2010 16:54:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Jeff http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-6871 Jeff Mon, 28 Dec 2009 22:08:28 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-6871 Penny - I'm glad you found this useful! Control freaks are out there everywhere. I hope this helps you to understand yours a little better. Not all control freaks are bad people, some are quite manageable once you know what makes them tick. Penny – I’m glad you found this useful! Control freaks are out there everywhere. I hope this helps you to understand yours a little better. Not all control freaks are bad people, some are quite manageable once you know what makes them tick.

]]> By: penny http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-6868 penny Mon, 28 Dec 2009 19:01:11 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-6868 btw, great writing, Jeff. I'm still in the process of trying to understand this phenomenon in the man I've been married to for 17 years. Your perspective shows me what it looks like on the flip side. btw, great writing, Jeff. I’m still in the process of trying to understand this phenomenon in the man I’ve been married to for 17 years. Your perspective shows me what it looks like on the flip side.

]]> By: penny http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-6867 penny Mon, 28 Dec 2009 18:49:18 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-6867 It hit me too as I'm married to one as well. Never knew this is a condition of the disorder until couple of months ago. Then so many of the things he's been doing make sense. Finally I found a name to it, after 18 years! I've always been giving in because he's way smarter, so his way always seems to be 'the right way'. But I guess years of giving in are adding up, and I'm beginning to wonder if I prefer my way even if it's not going to be the right way. How are you keeping up, Barbara? It hit me too as I’m married to one as well. Never knew this is a condition of the disorder until couple of months ago. Then so many of the things he’s been doing make sense. Finally I found a name to it, after 18 years! I’ve always been giving in because he’s way smarter, so his way always seems to be ‘the right way’. But I guess years of giving in are adding up, and I’m beginning to wonder if I prefer my way even if it’s not going to be the right way. How are you keeping up, Barbara?

]]> By: MikeC http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-6587 MikeC Thu, 19 Nov 2009 04:15:58 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-6587 Is there a continuation of this? Is there a continuation of this?

]]> By: lavie http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-6038 lavie Sun, 30 Aug 2009 19:33:00 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-6038 I laughed and cried :) best effect on me so far...I need to read this again and again until I won't read my name in every single word of what you wrote! great work, thanks :) (hey, I'm perfect so be sure I rated your article correctly :D haha, kiddin' :)) I laughed and cried :) best effect on me so far…I need to read this again and again until I won’t read my name in every single word of what you wrote!
great work, thanks :)

(hey, I’m perfect so be sure I rated your article correctly :D haha, kiddin’ :) )

]]> By: Jeff http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-4089 Jeff Tue, 24 Feb 2009 14:14:21 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-4089 @Kathryn - Your honesty with yourself and ability to recognize control freak behavior says a lot about how far you've come. I encourage you to keep trying! Old habits are hard to break, but you are obviously getting there. I'm sure those around you see and appreciate the effort. Never stop striving for the life you really desire! Way to go! @Kathryn – Your honesty with yourself and ability to recognize control freak behavior says a lot about how far you’ve come. I encourage you to keep trying! Old habits are hard to break, but you are obviously getting there. I’m sure those around you see and appreciate the effort. Never stop striving for the life you really desire!

Way to go!

]]> By: Kathryn http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-4081 Kathryn Mon, 23 Feb 2009 22:42:30 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-4081 Ugh. I saw myself in WAY too many of these points. I like to think of myself as a control freak in recovery, but my control over my recovery is often less secure than I'd like! Har. The trick for me was learning that the less control I had over a situation, the more I tried to control it... and the more out of control things became. To gain control, I had to let go, and boy was that a mind bender for a while! Shooting self in foot daily, but still trying. Ugh. I saw myself in WAY too many of these points. I like to think of myself as a control freak in recovery, but my control over my recovery is often less secure than I’d like! Har.

The trick for me was learning that the less control I had over a situation, the more I tried to control it… and the more out of control things became. To gain control, I had to let go, and boy was that a mind bender for a while!

Shooting self in foot daily, but still trying.

]]> By: xoc http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-4074 xoc Sun, 22 Feb 2009 20:57:51 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-4074 @Kendra - it really depends on how attached to control they are how much love they have for their partner (or other incentives to make the relationship work). Some would definitely end a relationship they can't control, especially if their partner simply fights fire with fire. Some disturbed individuals have even been known to do a lot worse than that. @Kendra – it really depends on how attached to control they are how much love they have for their partner (or other incentives to make the relationship work).

Some would definitely end a relationship they can’t control, especially if their partner simply fights fire with fire. Some disturbed individuals have even been known to do a lot worse than that.

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]]> By: Jeff http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/comment-page-1/#comment-4066 Jeff Sat, 21 Feb 2009 21:01:25 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/how-to-be-an-awesome-control-freak-results-may-vary/#comment-4066 @Kendra - I think the possibility of having a relationship with a control freak depends on just how controlling the person seems to be. For extreme cases, I think the possibility of them letting go is next to nil. If the person is just a junior control freak, then you have to decide that the relationship is important enough to constantly resist their control in order to maintain contact. @Jay - Your story kind of makes my earlier point - control freaks rarely change. It took extreme pain in your life before the pattern of bad behavior was broken. Unfortunately, it seems to take this kind of trauma in the control freak's life to make them change. I congratulate you on your effort! It sounds like you have made great strides in moving past your control freak behavior and toward a much better life. Way to go! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! @Kendra – I think the possibility of having a relationship with a control freak depends on just how controlling the person seems to be. For extreme cases, I think the possibility of them letting go is next to nil. If the person is just a junior control freak, then you have to decide that the relationship is important enough to constantly resist their control in order to maintain contact.

@Jay – Your story kind of makes my earlier point – control freaks rarely change. It took extreme pain in your life before the pattern of bad behavior was broken. Unfortunately, it seems to take this kind of trauma in the control freak’s life to make them change.

I congratulate you on your effort! It sounds like you have made great strides in moving past your control freak behavior and toward a much better life. Way to go!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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