How to Run Away from All Your Problems

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falling How to Run Away from All Your Problems Do you want to run away from all your problems?

I certainly have problems that I’d like to avoid.  Problems are hurtful, distracting and agitating.  Why wouldn’t I want to get as far away from them as possible?

That feeling you get when a big crisis pops up is sickening.  It can feel like you went bungee jumping without a rope.

That’s why I recently set out to find the most used strategies for running away from problems.  I wanted to uncover some things I could try.  Fortunately, it wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be to find popular tactics.  It seems that I’m not alone in wanting to avoid problems.

From my research, I found there are literally millions of people already using these techniques.  You might even be one of them.  However, I still thought it might be a value to share with you what I’ve learned.  I hope I don’t bore you with this stuff.  Maybe there is a new strategy here that you can use for better results than what you are experiencing now.

5 Ways to Run Away from All Your Problems

If you want to ditch all your problems, then it does appear that you have a lot of company.  As I said before, tons of people have gone before us paving the way.  I found this to be great news and very reassuring because we can learn from their experience.

Here are five common strategies I found to run away from our problems:

1.  Bury Your Head in the Sand

Probably one of the most common and promising strategies used to avoid problems is just to ignore them.  We have an amazing ability to blind ourselves to the issues in our lives.  If we don’t see and acknowledge the problems, then they simply don’t exist.  It is almost a miracle at how effective this technique can be.

Of course, as with all strategies, this one does have a potential gotcha.  Through some painstaking research and expert analysis, I have uncovered one pretty disturbing drawback of this approach that I think must have been hidden for years because so many have missed it.

It seems that those that utilize this approach later experience a day of reckoning.  As I said, this is a pretty disturbing concept.  What seems to happen is that all the ignored problems pile up and then one day, WHAM!  They smack you right between the eyes with a crisis so huge that it is impossible to ignore despite even the best efforts of those very experienced with the strategy.

I found this discovery to be quite upsetting.  At first, it seemed this was almost a perfect solution because it could be applied to practically any problem, but this day of reckoning thing really threw me for a loop so I decided to consider some other alternatives.

2.  Get a Divorce

It is common knowledge and widely accepted that most problems originate with other people.  We certainly aren’t the source of our own problems.  That’s just ridiculous! 

The closer a person is to you, the more leverage they have to create trouble for you.  Therefore, it only stands to reason that your spouse is a big source of problems in your life.  A divorce seems like a fast way to lighten up one’s life.  After all, they aren’t called the old ball and chain for nothin’. 

Again, this is a very popular strategy.  Some researchers think that more than half of all marriages end in divorce so a lot of people have embraced divorce as something that works in avoiding problems.  On the surface divorce looks like a fine way to quickly discard troublesome issues.

However, I’ve heard reports of divorce creating problems too.  Apparently, it is not completely the panacea of good times its cracked up to be.  There are rumors that It is loaded with financial issues and that it creates tons of complicated emotional problems especially when children are involved.  Please don’t go spreading this information around.  I don’t want my informants to know that I’m telling everyone their insider information.

It is really hard to believe that another very promising strategy for avoiding problems turns out to be saddled with cockleburs.  Fortunately, there are still more schemes tactics to consider.

3.  Live on Credit

I’ve said before that “life takes money”, but unfortunately money problems are plentiful.  In addition, they are stressful, difficult and persistent.  The good news is that there are plenty of banks with piles of money more than willing to help.  They are constantly offering tons of great deals on credit cards.   Heck, they even want to pay you to get one of the their cards.  How great of a deal is that?

Credit cards are taken just about everywhere nowadays.  You can basically live on credit!  This can really ease the burden in a financial pinch.  Have you been laid off from work?  No problem!  Just whip out your trusty old credit card and presto, your money problems are solved.  Whatever the situation, having a credit card in your pocket seems to ease the burden

I was sure that no one could possibly spoil this strategy for avoiding problems.  It seems so perfect, but then I ran across this article saying credit cards suck.  Oh, please say it isn’t so!  After I read about interest rate hikes, late fees and cancellations, I decided to do a little more research and found the truth about credit cards.  It is truly a sad day!

It is depressing to find out that three really promising strategies for avoiding problems seem so full of pitfalls.  I’m starting to wonder if there is any hope.

4.  Lose All Hope

Speaking of hope, I’m beginning to think, “Why even try?”  Life’s problems seem totally overwhelming and unavoidable at this point.  I might as well just give up.  Everyone is out to get me anyway.  My boss, my spouse, even my kids have it in for me.  There just doesn’t seem to be any solutions to these problems.  Everywhere I turn I only see more trouble heading my way.  It has always been this way for me.  I guess I’m just cursed.

I’ve tried, I really have, but it just never works out.  I can’t even avoid my problems.  I don’t know why I think I can ever possibly get ahead and loose from them.  I take one step forward and two steps back no matter how hard I try or what I do.  Overall, I just don’t have the energy to deal with it anymore.

I’m going to go with the flow.  I’m tired of fighting it.  I’ll let the cards fall where they may.  I’ll just run my life on autopilot.  That promotion I was wanting is out of my reach anyway and even if I got it, I probably wouldn’t like the job.  I’m sure it is just full of a lot of new problems I couldn’t avoid anyway.  The finances are a little tight, but if it gets too bad I’ll just declare bankruptcy.  What the heck!

I know I should want more for myself and my family, but it isn’t worth the hassle.  They probably wouldn’t appreciate it anyway.  Why go to all the trouble?  I think if I just ignore it all, then it won’t bother me so much.  This seems like the best approach.  Of course, I’ll never get that life I always wanted, but I guess that’s just the hand I’ve been dealt.  Oh well!

5.  Sabotage Yourself

I began this project really expecting to find ways to avoid all my problems, but it has been a seriously depressing journey.  I’m not sure how exactly I got here, but my life really sucks now.  The pain caused by all the problems that I can’t seem to avoid is overwhelming.

On top of that, I had a really big problem pop up again just this week that I wish I could have avoided.  I went to have a few drinks to enjoy life a little and to try to get my mind off my problems, but when I left the bar later than I intended, some idiot stopped short in front of me and I rear-ended him.  Of course, the cop was a butt-head about the whole thing and wrote me a ticket for driving while intoxicated.  I can’t believe he was so stupid about such a small deal.

Of course, the cop wasn’t the only one that blew this whole thing out of proportion.  When I got home, my wife had a hissy-fit over it.  She was so out-of-control telling me how irresponsible I’d been that I left and spent the night in a motel.  I think she’s overreacting to an accident.  She’s being totally unreasonable and might even use this to rationalize giving up on us.  What a night full of crazy problems!

The next morning wasn’t much better.  The alarm clock in the crummy motel didn’t go off and I overslept.  My boss called me into his office when he saw me coming in an hour late.  I tried to explain the situation and that it wasn’t my fault, but he lost his mind before I could finish.  He said that this was the last straw.  He fired me while going on and on ad nauseam about my poor attitude and performance.  It was quite a show really seeing his total lack of self-control.

I’ve had some time to reflect on this and I’ve decided good riddance to all of them.  I didn’t need them anyway.  The problems they caused me were ruining my life.  I’m going back to the bar to try to relax and forget about my troubles for awhile.  It seems to be the only place where people understand me.

Running Away from Problems Isn’t Smart (or Effective)

I so wished that I would have thought of this article in time for April Fool’s Day.  It really is foolish to think that we can run away from our problems.  The only way to a better life is to fully and completely accept personal responsibility for all our outcomes.  As an adult, we are responsible for the quality of our lives.  We can’t blame anyone else for our troubles and we can’t simply run away from them.

“You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desire result.  For whatever reason – ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be right, the need to feel safe – you chose not to exercise that power.  Who knows why?  It doesn’t matter.  The past is the past.  All that matters now is that from this point forward you choose – that’s right, it’s a choice – you choose to act as if you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you.”
~ Jack Canfield, The Success Principles

I’ll admit that life can be hard.  It can hand us a crummy mess from time-to-time, but the only way we can effectively fight back is to face life head on.  We have to stop running from our problems and start doing something about them.

What are you going to do today to produce a better life?

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28 thoughts on “How to Run Away from All Your Problems

  1. Unfortunately, the way to deal with problems is to run to them and tackle them head on. Not an easy option but problems have a way of snowballing when you run away!

  2. Well said! The head in the sand approach is one I’m familiar with – if you don’t look at your problems then they can’t get you! Only it doesn’t work that way, does it? Sooner or later they will kick you in your upturned butt. Fixing is harder than preventing – something I’m learning now.
    .-= Paula´s last blog ..Signs of the season =-.

    • Paula – What a great (and funny) way to look at sticking your head in the sand! I love it. Fixing problems is definitely harder than preventing them in the first place. Of course, we are all human. We are going to make mistakes. When we do, we have to accept responsibility and make things right no matter how hard it is. This is the only way to true success.

  3. All very well said but when you work as hard as you can and dont get anywhere and feel as if you are going bacwards. In reality life sucks, you work untill you die, your just a slave to the system.

    Sorry to disagree but theres too much xxxx in life to put right.

  4. I think that many of the options you list have gone through my head at one time or another, may have even tried a few, but the best way to deal with issues is head on. And sometimes the anxiety of anticipating is actually worse than the actual repercussions.
    Bernice
    .-= Ramblings of a Woman´s last blog ..This is your life… =-.

  5. How should I take responsibility for my fiance beating me? How is that something I need to face? How do I take responsibility for getting death threats from a sexually abusive boss? How do you not live on credit when your husband left you and your son for another man? (5’4″, 110 lbs., drop dead gorgeous and have five academic degrees…) How do you maintain hope when a man lied to me to get me pregnant in order to keep me? How do you believe in anything when your own father hit on you telling you he “thinks I am so hot even he would do me”.

    I’ve spent many years in therapy and countless dollars to have the therapists telling me I have EVERY RIGHT to be a victim…I am. I’ve been the victim of serious violations of law and abuse, that I deserve the right to be treated gently. People punish the victim, blame the victim…We are very fragile people who feel very entitled to feel the pain we are supposed to feel after being violently assaulted. There are no family and friends to turn to, All the national domestic violence shelters turned me away because I have insurance…Insurance the abuser paid for to keep me out of therapy. (I couldn’t afford the co pay to use it)

    While I appreciate your positive attitude and the fact that you are trying to help people, there are very real problems in this world. Most of us realize WHY we got here. What we need is people to stop walking away from us…

    How do you not run away, when you know you are not wanted? Would anyone stay where they know they are not wanted?

    I don’t necessarily expect answers, but I do want people to think more about what other people are going through, every person you meet has a story. Every person has suffered some sort of trauma and abuse at some point.

    There gets to be a point where self esteem is so low, or in a way too high, to stay. The man that hit me doesn’t deserve to know where I live so he can keep driving by. He’s not harassing me, but he doesn’t deserve to ever see me again. As long as I don’t run away he will always have to power to just drop by and pick my scabs.

  6. what do you do when you can’t go anywhere. everyone says its all you. Is it possible to ALWAYS be all you? my life sucks. i almost died, but because i let the people who treat me like crap (my kids husband mother) convince me to do the transplant, now i am even less happy, as if i could have imagined that was possible. living 11 yrs away from where i had a life of some sort, to no friends, no hope and worse not wanting to be here. someone died last yr for me to live. why? this is really not worth it.

  7. i agree with Kim and Sally…..each experience and circumstances are unique…the only way to seek solace in this materialistic world is to seek enlightenment and peace by looking inwards, doing soul searching and free ourselves from maerialistic worldly pleasures and attain nirvana ..Aum Tat Sat.

  8. Haha, running away from life – nice one!
    Well I’m running away like a dog from the light to darker side of the world (oh no – I don’t mean depression or cuts or stuff like that – it’s more like a sabbatical) !

  9. I faced my problems and tried to resolve (I’ve been working on it for a year) it but I couldn’t because other people tried to stop me. What do you do if other people with bad intentions try to stop you from resoving a problem? I agree with Kim. Why do people punish the victims.

  10. Hey, nice article, I tried to runaway from my problems, but like you concluded, it didn’t work. I ranaway from home at 16 and traveled arond the world without any money but my problems just followed me. I prayed that with each new country I would forget and find happiness but I could not. I realized that to search for happines or forget your problems in the external world is a search without end. The only way you can truly find happiness or get rid of your problems is by confronting them head on. Good luck and safe travels through life,
    Leif

    • Leif, it sounds like you found out the hard away that running away doesn’t work. I totally agree that you’ve got to confront your problems to solve them. Running away just doesn’t work. Thanks for adding your personal experience to this!

  11. I agree with many of the comments on this site running away from your problems doesn’t always solve them they do intend to follow you. Problems come in all guises some are not of your own making especially abuse from other people as some of these comments have said. People who abuse others verbally or phyisically are just cowards who pick on others who sometimes are weaker than themselves. Kim’s story is very sad she does not need those type of people. I hope she finds happiness elsewhere in the future, of course we all feel like running away from things at times when we feel everything is getting to much to handle i have felt that way myself, life today can be very stressful when i feel under pressure i just go for a long walk it does help me i have found.

  12. I agree with Kim, Robi, Jane – problems are sometimes devestating, externally generated, and with seemingly no way out. When the pain is too great, it leads to depression. A huge step of recovery is in uncovering the true sources of pain and what they are and are not.

    It is true that people should take responsibility to plan a way forward, but that is the rub. Some people face pain and dilemmas they are incapable of navigating. Then what? How do people get help in finding people to talk to, who will help them find a way to navigate painful or dangerous situations when they have been unable to themselves and are “stuck”, sometimes for many years? Stauffenberg (1944) once faced such a dilemma, and he had a much more identifiable problem in front of him which for many there is no such luxury.

  13. So what if you want to just walk away from your life and start over. Leave your husband, even the children, friends, and family. I want to live but not as me anymore.

  14. Well, I have faced my problems head on and always try to face them head on, but it does no good if the other side is not willing to face it as well. Oh and running away may not be the best thing, but something about saying I can’t take this no more, I am going to run my life the way it should be, make a goal, move to a new area, make new friends, etc. does help. Perfect witness to say this does work. But in the end, it is still facing your problems head on. Saying there is a problem and I am going to do something about it to fix it.

  15. i hate myself and i want to die because i am so afraid that i am not getting away from all that shit!please god or whoever is out there help me to escape from all that shit i am in!!!!! i am a good person make my life good!!!!!!!

  16. Thanks for your comments it realy helped me to boost my morale ! am gona face my problems now, i don’t want to bury my head in the sand i dont want to act like an ostrich. I’m so fucked up, sometimes i locked myself for hours altogether or even days, i see the world to be very tough and unfair. I tried to listen to some lectures about angels and i see them not have any problems, it made me think, why wasnt i created an angel ? but then i have this feeling that if i pass through this life of TESTS, TRIALS and TRIBULATIONS angles are going to serve me, so i will be better than them..still it dint work for me. But now after i read ur comments i feel am not alone in this wheel of life, Let us all try to live to our destined time, and may Lord be Merciful to give us something better in the life to come ~ I LOVE YOU ALL

  17. I want to run away for a long time… I feel I can’t take it anymore. I understand it’s not ‘them’ it’s me… of course. I fight with my mom, I fight with my kids, my friends drive me insane and the only person I do not fight with and who doesn’t drive me insane is my husband, but he wants me to work harder and I just can’t! I just want to fall asleep and do absolutely NOTHING for a couple of weeks… I hoped it would change and get better but it doesn’t.

    • Pips – I completely understand. For sometime I have wanted to just run away. I have thought about changing my name and moving somewhere far away. But then something happened. My 12 year old son, came to me with a problem. and then I began to see, yes…we fight..boy, do we fight….but at the end of the day, I’m still mom and they know that. I realized they do need me after all. I also am on two different anti-depressents to help me through those ‘dark’ days where all I want to do is sleep. Hang in there. Look at your kids..What would happen to them if you ran away.

  18. Oh and I’m case you need help, just buy my book, it will guide you to take action
    I swear self help is BS – it is the haves taking from the have nots
    The point is, people in this cycle move on when they exceed their threshold of fear, hatred sadness or even boredom that could have been avoided
    We are trying to test ourselves, to see how shitty we can let life get before we fix it or end it
    Those who are successful in life somehow have much lower thresholds to these feelings

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