Want to transform your ordinary life into an extraordinary life?
Often the difference between ordinary and extraordinary lies at the other end of a question. In other words, you just need to ask for what you really want.
The trouble is we either don’t ask at all or we ask the wrong questions.
Asking the right questions can transform your life in just about any area. It works in your marriage, your career, your spiritual life, your finances, your free time and even your health.
Three Questions for an Extraordinary Life
An extraordinary life is like a chair on a gorgeous beach. It is just sitting there waiting for you to come and occupy it. It is all yours. All you have to do is claim it. Don’t you want it?
If you do, then find out how to move yourself from where you are to that place where you want to be.
Of course, you’ve got to define a clear vision of exactly what you want first, but once you know, start moving towards it.
How do you do this? Well, when you aren’t sure what to do, I think one fantastic way to get going is to start asking some powerful questions. Questions that will take you toward what you want and illuminate the path ahead for you.
Here are three questions that will help you achieve an extraordinary life:
1. What would have to happen for me to get <what I desire>?
Everything is possible. You just need someone to say ‘yes’ to what you want. What will it take for you to get that ‘yes’? I suggest you start asking to find out.
Be specific when you ask. Again, this means you have to know precisely what you want first. I hope you’ve already defined that. If so, then start asking for it specifically. Let me give you a few examples:
- Honey, what would have to happen for me to get you to wash the dishes every night after dinner?
- Boss, what would have to happen for me to get a $400 per month raise?
- Prospect, what would have to happen for me to get you to sign the contract before next month?
- Investor, what would have to happen for you to put $10,000 into my business venture?
- Sales Manager, what would have to happen for you to pay my way to Hawaii for a week?
- Family, what would have to happen for you to live on a budget so we can pay off our debt?
Again, you are trying to uncover exactly what it will take for you to get what you want. The person you ask may be a little flabbergasted at first by your question because so few people ask, be gentle and persistent. If you are, then it is likely that the person that holds the keys to your future will tell you exactly what you need to do to get what you desire.
You may not like their answer, but you will know their terms. It then becomes up to you. How bad do you want it? Are you willing to do what it will take? Those that successfully reach their goals will find a way.
Remember, an extraordinary life is in the eye of the beholder. How you define what you want is specific to you. Don’t let anyone else try to define it for you or sway you off track. Be clear and specific.
2. How do you see me limiting myself?
Feedback is as valuable as gold. It tells you what you can’t see for yourself. It removes the blind spots that are holding you back from an extraordinary life. The trouble is people usually don’t give us honest feedback if we ask for it because they are afraid of our reaction.
One way to handle this is to simply ask for feedback in a different way. Asking, “How do you see me limiting myself?” is different. It implies that you are interested in learning to improve. This may be enough to get the other person to open up a bit. Such feedback can be very enlightening and used wisely it can totally transform your life from ordinary to extraordinary.
Of course, you need to accept whatever feedback you get without arguing, getting angry or withdrawing. Listen to what the person has to say and thank them for their honesty. Tell them that you need to think about what they’ve said and digest it a little, but that you will try to implement their advice.
Ask enough people this question and you will have a goldmine of information that you can use to create an extraordinary life!
3. What one simple action can I take today to move towards my ideal situation?
The final question is one that you need to ask yourself. Gathering the information from the two questions above and then not acting upon it is fruitless. It won’t get you anywhere.
You have to act in order to achieve an extraordinary life. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you accomplish a big dream? One small baby step at a time.
Every large accomplishment is made up of a series of small action steps strung together all aimed towards one distinct goal. What one little baby step can you take today to move you towards your ideal situation?
It could be as simple as:
- Making a phone call to a new prospect.
- Scheduling a meeting with your boss to discuss your future.
- Researching ways to start a personal finance budget.
- Starting a savings plan for the down payment on your new house
- Talking heart-to-heart with your spouse about the state of your marriage.
You’ve got to learn to stop procrastinating and start doing what it takes if you want an extraordinary life. Doing one small thing every day will get you there. It might take awhile, but doing nothing gets you nowhere. A year from now you can either be right where you are today or 365 steps closer to your dream. Which do you choose?
These Questions Can Make Your Life Extraordinary
Remember that chair on that beautiful beach? Look at the picture at the top of this article again. Don’t you want to sit in that chair? Doesn’t it have your name written all over it? Using the questions I’ve presented here today you can claim that proverbial chair for yourself. You can transform your life from ordinary to extraordinary. What are you waiting for?
This article was inspired by what I’ve been reading in The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. His book is my featured resource for Super-Charged Living right now. Check it out!
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