Men It Is Time To Revive Chivalry And Become Knights!

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Men need to stand up and lead their families, businesses, and communities with passion!  It is time to fight for what’s right.  Is chivalry dead?  On Wikipedia, it says that during medieval times chivalry was associated with ideals of knightly virtues, honor and courtly love.  However, it goes on to say that today chivalry is used to describe courteous behavior.  Ugh!  Have we really let such a powerful idea as chivalry be watered down to just politely opening doors?  I say it is time to take a stand, to be men, and bring true chivalry back! 

You are striving for knighthood.

windowslivewritermenitistimewestandupandfightforwhatsrigh 6b5aknight 3 Men It Is Time To Revive Chivalry And Become Knights! Imagine for a moment that we live in the times of knights that wore shining armor and rode valiant, white steeds.  I am the king and you desire knighthood.  I like this already!  Knights were highly respected warriors.  Becoming a knight was greatly desired because it brought honor and recognition to your family name.  As a result, your family has been grooming you for knighthood since you very little.  They started out teaching you manners and courtesy at a very early age.  These are considered the most elementary and basic traits needed to ever hope to become a knight.  Now, you have grown into a strong and brave young man.  You come to the king and seek knighthood.  How will he evaluate your worthiness?  As king, he will want to know if you have demonstrated chivalry in all your actions.  But, what is chivalry really?  Let’s examine more closely each of the three ideals of chivalry so you will know exactly what the king is looking for in you.

Are you living a life of knightly virtues?

As men hopeful to become knights, it is our responsibility to lead by example.  The standard is very high!  What virtues is the king inquiring about when he wants to know if we live with knightly virtues?  He will inquire about things like courage, justice, windowslivewritermenitistimewestandupandfightforwhatsrigh 6b5abattle 3 Men It Is Time To Revive Chivalry And Become Knights!temperance, generosity, and hope.  Are we disciplining ourselves and cultivating this kind of behavior in ourselves and those around us?  Men, the king wants to know if we have embraced the more manly virtues of knighthood.  He asks, “What have you done to show that you are brave in battle, loyal to your king and God, and willing to sacrifice yourself for the greater good?“  What would be your answer?  Is your life committed to a cause worth fighting for? 

He would go on to ask, “Do you stand up for what’s right no matter the cost, do you avoid excesses in eat and drink, have you contributed to the welfare of the kingdom’s widows and orphans?”  The king might bring in your friends, family members, and members of your community as witnesses.  What would they say about the way you live your life?  Would they have examples of your virtuous deeds to share with the king?  Once the king was satisfied that you live with knightly virtues he would move on to evaluate your honor.

Honor is critical to chivalry and knighthood.

The king knows that honor is about reputation.  It is about your integrity.  He would want to know if the important people in your life trust you.  Should they?  Trustworthiness comes from doing the right thing in every situation.  Trust is earned.  The king would want to know if your actions have earned you the trust and respect of your brother warriors.  He knows that a man is only as good as his word.  The king would also ask your business associates, “When he shook on deals, did he always, without exception, stand behind his agreement?”  He would want to know if your word is better than any legal contract.  What would these people say about you?

windowslivewritermenitistimewestandupandfightforwhatsrigh 6b5acrown 3 Men It Is Time To Revive Chivalry And Become Knights! The king would go on to question your wife and family.  He knows that in order to become a knight and serve the kingdom well, that you must stand behind your promises.  He would ask your wife, “Has he been 100% faithful in action and attitude?”  The king knows the temptations that exist.  For example, he knows that conservative estimates are that 60% of men have extramarital affairs.  He would want to know if you stood behind your word in your wedding vows to forsake all others loving her in times of sickness and health, for richer or poorer, better or worse.  He would ask your kids, “Does your dad keep his promises?”  Are you there both physically and mentally when you promise to be?  Do you make time to play with them when you say you will?  The king would scrutinize the answers of everyone closely because he knows that honor and trustworthiness are critical to knighthood.  Once the king was satisfied that you have met this qualification for knighthood, he would go on to evaluate the final ideal of chivalry.

Every princess deserves courtly love from her chivalrous knight.

windowslivewritermenitistimewestandupandfightforwhatsrigh 6b5aprincess 3 Men It Is Time To Revive Chivalry And Become Knights! At this point, the king would be satisfied that you have met the basic requirements of your marriage, but now he would take it one step further.  The standards of knighthood are high and the king would want to know if you have demonstrated courtly love for your wifeHe would want to know if you treat your woman as a true princessHe would assemble a court of your wife’s sisters, friends, and co-workers to help him evaluate you in this ideal.  The king would ask them about your romantic reputation with your wife.  He would want to know, “Does he still romance her like he did when they were courting?”  He would ask them for specific examples of your feats of romantic love.  He would want to know if you demonstrate to the world that she is your one and only?  He would ask the ladies, “Does she brag about his romantic feats?”  Do these other woman know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you would risk your life defending your wife against the fiercest fire-breathing dragon in all the kingdom?  Would your love for your wife hold up to this level of scrutiny by the king?  If so, then you may be ready for knighthood!

You are hereby dubbed Sir Knight of Modern Chivalry.

We have high ideals to live up to in order to be dubbed modern knights.  It isn’t easy being a real man and living by the ideals of chivalry.  However, the benefits are well worth it.  If we choose this path, we will reap its rewards.  I hope you are up to the task.  Our families, businesses, and communities need some true knights.  We need men that pursue the ideals of chivalry with their whole hearts.  Ask your wife.  I bet she would love you to be her knight in shining armor!

Are you a candidate for knighthood?  If so, apply to the king by leaving a comment below!  Also, be sure to Stumble or Digg this article so other knights can find it.

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23 thoughts on “Men It Is Time To Revive Chivalry And Become Knights!

  1. Excellent post, Jeff! Men have been somewhat emasculated by a media that constantly puts down strong-willed men, and highlights a more sensitive, quiet breed. Chilvalry has been replaced by feminism, as if they two cannot co-exist. On occasion, I even get strange looks while holding the door for a lady. However, I refuse to shirk my responsibilities as a member of the Knights of Modern Chivalry!

  2. Actually, courtly love was more about loving your neighbor’s wife in various ways but probably not actually sleeping with her. Fun times.

    From wikipedia (and various things I learned in my Medieval lit class): In essence, courtly love was a contradictory experience between erotic desire and spiritual attainment, “a love at once illicit and morally elevating, passionate and disciplined, humiliating and exalting, human and transcendent.”

    Not saying men can’t be wonderfully loving and awesome, but yeah…”courtly” is a bit of a misnomer for that. ;)

  3. Excellent post!

    I’d just like to throw in a bit of my thoughts and say that… although I think chivalry is a great idea, I’ve grown out of it. On a simple level chivalry is very appealing, but the kind of system it prospered in… well to have true chivalry you’d have to bring in the social connotations as well as the theory. At least that’s my opinion. Again, I agree with what you’re saying, and it’s a nice way to put it… but yeah.

    In the end, I’ve come to see that living a life of “knightly virtue” isn’t for me. That’s not to say I don’t have the qualities leading to “knightly virtue,” just that I don’t obtain them by striving to be a knight. I’ve come to see living a “honorable” life as being… desperate. Desperate to survive, not just as a person but as a species. It is desperation that I see to be truly valuable. A knight’s sense of trust, for example, is essentially conditional, given the nature of vassalage. However, if you are desperate to trust someone… for their sake, and your sake… nothing can break that trust. It’s true that can work out badly, but can’t anything? It does work sometimes though, and it is beautiful when it does, much more so than the aloof sense of trust and camaraderie that knighthood has come to represent for me.

    I am desperate to believe in the people around me and the people of the world, and I think that makes me a better person for it.

    Just my thoughts, anyway.

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  5. @Mrs. Micah – I looked at courtly love as being senseless. It seems like love that knows no boundaries where a man would do anything to win the woman of his desire. Of course, I applied it here to marriage. Whatever it is, a man of honor and chivalry should love his wife with great abandon and from his whole heart. That is the message I wanted to convey.

    @Benny – I’m not sure I follow you. You might be thinking much more deeply about this than me. I simply wanted to use some of the concepts of chivalry and knighthood to enourage men to lead upstanding lives. We have people depending on us and we need live up to those obligations.

    @Roman – Agreed. Spread the word!

    Thanks for taking the time to comment!

  6. Hey Jeff,

    I know what you meant. My intention was to simply throw in a bit of my own thoughts to hopefully complement what you’ve said. Perhaps I am thinking more deeply… I have a habit of reading into things and analyzing things to an extreme extent. I love to dig wide and deep, but it comes out kinda oddly when I try to share that, you know?

  7. @Benny – I appreciate you reading so carefully and completely. Analyzing things and considering them fully is a great thing to do. I often do the same thing. I’m glad that what I write stimulates you to go deep and wide!

    @Antonio – How many second dates have you been on lately? :)

    As alwasy I appreciate your comments!

  8. “Too many times we wimp out and look to satisfy our own selfish desires rather than giving sacrificially to our wives and families.”

    Yeah, that’s why women have 80% of spending power, are they spared from dangerous and dirty work, get preferential treatment all the way. Fortunately they accept these privileges in good grace, and behave very lady-like in return, particularly in divorce and family court.

    In the current state of affairs, with the war of the sexes poisoning relationships, and women feeling entitled to be vindictive and destructive, chivalry is ill-advised

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  11. Been writing about chivalry since my blog began. Great post there, Jeff.

    To all of the men who are complaining about ladies being unladylike, who think that feminism killed chivalry, or who otherwise use strong willed women as an excuse to not behave like a man: get over it.

    I’m not trying to start a flame war here, but it kills me to see men bashing women. Just because there are a few feminists out there who want to take men down, that doesn’t mean that we have to participate in the war.

    Most men can lead lives of quiet dignity, protecting, nurturing, and providing for the amazing woman that has chosen to live her life by your side.

    You attract into your life what you put out, guys. If you want a strong, feminine, beautiful woman who will be a lady to be trusted and admired, then you have to man up and act like a gentleman. Chivalry is a part of that.

  12. Oh, and Jeff, your source for the number of men who have extramarital affairs is extremely suspect. DearPeggy sites Kinsey’s research, which has been shown on multiple occasions to have a lot of holes in it. While it is useful information, there is far more research required before we can say that 60% of men have affairs.

    Great post, however, and I’ll be back!

  13. “To all of the men who are complaining about ladies being unladylike, who think that feminism killed chivalry, or who otherwise use strong willed women as an excuse to not behave like a man: get over it.”

    Chivalry is a racket, and you’re part of that racket. You’re out of your mind if you think we’re still falling for those cheap shaming tactics. Nice try though.

    Your idea that we are dealing with a “few feminist” who are doing a little bit of damage shows that you are either acting in bad faith or you’re completely out of touch. Men’s complete lives are being ruined out there, and not just a few of them. You really don’t have a clue.

    Don’t even bother coming back with the usual condescension, I’ve heard it all before.

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  15. Hey.

    I’m only 14, but I am already trying to become a knight. I agree with most of the above points, but it can be very hard to continuously be honourable and chivalrous. We could all do with someone to help us along our journey to knighthood.

    Good luck along your paths, my fellow Knights!

  16. Are you kidding me?

    Knights were hardly “chivalrous”

    The idea of chivalry was really proposed by the author of the original King Arthur and the Knight of the round Table; written well into the Medeival period and by a disgraced knight in jail!!!!

    Knight were notoriiously barbaric; a common pastime for knight was to ride around and attack helpless pheasant farmers. They also used to test their swords by seeing if they could cut a human body in half; usually with the victim still alive!!!

    Please get your history right and stop perpetuating useless unrealised and overly romanticized stereotypes.

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