Wanna know what really annoys me?
Shhh…I have a confession to make. I have a pet peeve. That’s right I get annoyed with people. Maybe even you.
There’s a common thing people say that just irritates the crap out of me.
I know they don’t mean to, but I can’t help getting annoyed and I need to come clean.
Maybe if I get the word out, you and the others will stop doing this and I’ll never again be frustrated by it. I can always hope.
My Pet Peeve Revealed
Wikipedia defines a pet peeve as a minor annoyance that is particularly irritating. It goes on to say that a key aspect of a pet peeve is that it may well seem acceptable to others.
That’s the case with my pet peeve. I don’t think most people, even you, realize you do it. And, even if you do, you probably don’t see a problem with it.
However, as I think I’ve already established, it chafes me up one side and down the other. Once I call it to your attention, I believe you’ll also begin to detest it.
Okay, so here’s my pet peeve.
It is when people say, “I can’t” when what they really mean is, “I don’t want to.”
Let me give you some examples:
- I can’t change, this is just the way I am.
- I can’t do that, I could never figure it out.
- I can’t learn that new skill, I just don’t have the time. <– really annoys me
- I can’t try your idea, after all it was your idea.
Stop saying, “I can’t”. You CAN. You just choose not to.
Why This Annoys Me So Much
You CAN. You CAN. You CAN.
That pretty much summarizes why this is so irritating to me, but let me elaborate anyway.
I get annoyed when people (you?) shut out opportunity before it ever even has a chance to bloom.
The truth is, if you CHOOSE to make something a priority, then you CAN!
So, stop saying, “I can’t.”
Say, “I don’t want to.” Say, “I choose not to.” Say, “It isn’t a priority for me right now.”
But, stop lying to yourself and me about why you aren’t doing things.
You see, words have power. When you keep saying, “I can’t,” you start to believe it.
You begin boxing yourself in. You put walls up around your life and before you know it, you have limited your options down to the boring, mundane and ineffective.
In other words, you convince yourself that, you can’t.
Over the years, on this site, I’ve heard from a lot of readers and many of them tell me why they can’t.
They tell me they CAN’T break old habits, create new ones, fix their finances, improve their health, repair their relationships, get out of hopeless situations, find new jobs, live with passion, be positive, take proper care of their children, love others, be loved by others, etc., etc., etc.
I feel like I’ve heard it all. But, all the excuses start with, “I can’t…”
That’s why it annoys me so much when I hear it. That’s why this is my pet peeve.
It seems harmless, but it is not.
Please Stop Participating in My Pet Peeve
So, I beg you, please, please please stop saying and believing that you can’t.
Instead, believe that (if you make it a priority):
- You have the time.
- You have the courage.
- You can get the money.
- And you are bright enough to learn.
I saw a thing on Facebook this week that said:
There are three kinds of people in the world.
- Those who make it happen.
- Those who watch it happen.
- And those who wonder what happened.
The ones that say, “I can’t” are the same ones wondering, “What just happened?” and “Why can’t I get a break?”
As Thomas Edison said, “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.”
Every opportunity to change your life for the better involves some element of difficulty (work), risk and the need to learn something new. Say, “I can” to these things and you will be on your way to a bigger, happier, more fulfilling life.
Those who make it happen for themselves are my heroes because they have stopped saying, “I can’t”. Won’t you become one of them? If you do, life will be a little less annoying for me.
I’m determined. I’m going to change the world and eliminate my pet peeve, one person at a time!