Comments on: Overcoming Selfishness For A Simpler and Successful Life

By: Adam

Adam — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 14:47:53 +0000

Chris – I am you and you are me. My last relationship broke down because of my selfishness and my 8 year marriage is down the tubes because of this (again). I have a good job and money and my life possessions seem to always have been first. My kids are suffering (21, 16, and 12) and I am suffering. At this point in my life I have found that this really doesn’t fulfill me. I will change for myself and for the loved ones around me.

By: Danny

Danny — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 21:06:40 +0000

Hi Jeff,

As I read your articles and the comments, I already knew how selfish I was, how secretive, and it’s destroying my marriage. I especially like your third suggestion. Patience is necessary in so many ways.

Thanks,
Danny

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 01 May 2011 07:16:33 +0000

Jeff,

Advice is good

I have been selfish all my life, my last relationship broke down and my current one is heading that way. I plan everything being an accounant has put money and my life possessions first. Although my girlfriend has moved in being made redunandant a cople of months ago, I’m still looking after myself and always for my own interests, very similar to my farther who walked out of a 31 year marriage, on very similar terms

I care deeply for her, and always want to be supportive and caring, any help on this matter and similar experainces would be of great assisatance, of course am willing to discuss further

Regards

Chris

By: Missn

Missn — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 20:02:34 +0000

Selfishness is the opposite of love..I see them as two separate paths, one of the heart and one of satisfying the needs and wants and if we live to do that we end up with nothing but ourselves and that is a pretty sad state.

By: john

john — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 23:55:14 +0000

I get the feeling that my selfishness stems from my view that I ‘ve been hurt or offended or that maybe I ‘ve been rejected – it seems to come from a sense of wanting revenge for something.

By: Missn

Missn — Thu, 25 Nov 2010 01:58:22 +0000

It is hard to overcome selfishness, eh? I think it is the biggest thing we have to overcome in life yet it is also one of the hardest. I try to take spiritual approaches to it too, but it is hard to overcome.

By: Missn

Missn — Thu, 25 Nov 2010 01:56:49 +0000

It is hard to overcome selfishness, eh? I think it is the biggest thing we have to overcome in life yet it is also one of the hardest. Thanks for the tips.

By: Erica

Erica — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 23:10:04 +0000

Hi all that have read this. I’m going through this right now. I never understood how I was being selfish. My boyfriend tells me from time to time that i am being selfish. I always use to feel bad when he called me selfish and i just found out today that i really am SELFISH! i just made up my own little book to keep to write down all my thoughts and all my thoughts was what i wanted and not looking at what my boyfriend really wanted. I knew something was wrong with me but i didnt know what it was. I always thought i was depressed about something, but it turns out im not depressed. I’m needy,and i depend on my boyfriend and other people that or close to me. So it’s not a good feeling to just find out that not only there is one thing wrong with you its three things wrong with you. I’m SELFISH, NEEDY, AND DEPENDENT ON OTHERS…I feel now that i have wasted a year and a half being upset about notting. I just dont no how to admit to my boyfriend that i am selfish.Thats the hard part for me because when something goes wrong im always quite about it. Im a to myself person and i have always been since i was younger. I just turned 21 five days ago. And now i think im out growing my selfishness…maybe turning 21 is meaning becomeing a MORE WISE WOMEN and meaning its time to get out my selfish ways and enjoy life to the fullest. well i made this email up so that yall can write me. I know that i must first handle my own problem but also i would like to here what goes on with other people who have the same problem as i do. so here is the email (livelife2dfullest2009@live.com) write me anytime i will try to check it once a week at least. I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER TO GET THIS OUT TO THE WORLD. I AM SELFISH, IM NOT CRAZY, BUT I WILL OVERCOME IT, IT TAKES TIME. i love you all and thanks for taking your time to listin.

By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills

Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 00:34:16 +0000

Wonderful post Jeff. I have found that recognizing selfishness can be a kind of awaking process for some. I went through this myself many years ago ( my daughter was the facilitator). Until then, I didn’t even realize that I was selfish. Go figure! Read Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills´s latest article - Finding Inner Peace and Harmony

By: Jeff

Jeff — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 22:44:06 +0000

@Nicki – Kids really exposed my selfishness to me. They demand your time and attention. You really have to learn to be a giver to be a good parent. I’m still working on it.

Thanks for pointing this out!