Age is something that none of us can avoid. No matter how much effort you exert, you cannot stop the aging process. Time passes and we celebrate more birthdays whether we like it or not. I’ve always been a firm believer that life has its seasons. Things come and go. But now that I’m in my early forties, I think a little more about age and its significance. Lately, I’ve been considering whether it is better to be twenty-something or forty-something.
The advantages of being in your twenties.
It has been awhile since I was twenty-something, but as I recall there are some advantages. I enjoyed my twenties and believe that for most people this decade is characterized by freedom and exploration. Adult life is new and the world is wide-open with opportunity. Here are some things that generally go with being twenty-something:
- Active social life
- No children
- Good health
- Lots of energy
- Stamina to live fast
- Simple lifestyle
- Low cost of living
- More freedom
- No one else to answer to for actions
- More adventurous
For most people, their twenties is a time to try new things and discover who they are. It is exciting to finally be a full-fledged adult. I remember these years fondly.
The advantages of being in your forties.
Contrary to what some believe, life is not over once you turn forty. In fact, I have found that there are a number of positives that come with this age. I think that once you reach forty, you have started to understand more about yourself. You have usually endured some hardships and learned a few life lessons. You have settled down and resolved many of the questions that you had in your twenties. Here are some more things that generally go with being forty-something:
- Not as concerned about looks
- Wiser due to experience (i.e. learned from mistakes)
- Fewer, but deeper relationships
- More patient
- Greater financial resources
- Increased appreciation for kids
- Live at slower pace
- Surrounded by family
- Better at relaxing
- Values health
- Established in career
- Less social pressure
My thoughts about age and its impact on our lives
As I started out saying, I think there are seasons in life. Each has its positives and negatives. I certainly enjoyed my twenties and often reflect on the days where I had less responsibility and things were simpler. However, I am also grateful for where I’m at now. I’m very happy with the life that I’ve built. I believe I have more contentment and have learned to slow down a little to truly enjoy what I have.
In terms of living life to the fullest, I think that these two decades of life have different things to offer.
Your twenties are active and adventurous. I would encourage every twenty-something to read Marc’s 70 Things To Do Before Having Children and heed his suggestions. Go out there and try new things! Discover as much as you can about what the world has to offer. Take risks while there is less to lose. The world is your playground!
On the other hand, I would challenge those in your forties to be grateful for all you have. You have the experience and wisdom to make this the most fruitful season of your life yet. You still have time to build and savor. The forties are a sweet spot!
What do you think? Which is better?
I’m interested in knowing your thoughts. Which do you think is better, being twenty or forty? Leave a comment below and state your case!
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