Comments on: Reader Question: Handling Pressure To Apologize http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/ Tips, Motivation, and Resources for Living Life to the Fullest! Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:22:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Bobby Saini http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/comment-page-1/#comment-1565 Bobby Saini Thu, 10 Jul 2008 02:38:10 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/#comment-1565 Great response! Thank you for taking the time to respond. Great response! Thank you for taking the time to respond.

]]> By: John Kador http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/comment-page-1/#comment-1555 John Kador Wed, 09 Jul 2008 01:13:57 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/#comment-1555 There's an easy way to indicate you're not ready to apologize. Just say "I'm not over it yet." The "yet" is very important because it indicates you intend to apologize, but on your own time. If your friends press you, just repeat as often as necessary. Don't be defensive, don't be sucked into a debate, and don't let yourself be intimidated into apologizing before you're ready. That said, apologizing is good for relationships and they are more effective sooner rather than later, so do the work to get over it. There’s an easy way to indicate you’re not ready to apologize. Just say “I’m not over it yet.” The “yet” is very important because it indicates you intend to apologize, but on your own time. If your friends press you, just repeat as often as necessary. Don’t be defensive, don’t be sucked into a debate, and don’t let yourself be intimidated into apologizing before you’re ready. That said, apologizing is good for relationships and they are more effective sooner rather than later, so do the work to get over it.

]]> By: Marc and Angel Hack Life http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/comment-page-1/#comment-1552 Marc and Angel Hack Life Tue, 08 Jul 2008 17:29:24 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/#comment-1552 I find that the best way to get over something is to simply let a little time pass. Take some time and let the flame die down, then address the situation when you're emotions are at rest. I find that the best way to get over something is to simply let a little time pass. Take some time and let the flame die down, then address the situation when you’re emotions are at rest.

]]> By: Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D. http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/comment-page-1/#comment-1551 Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D. Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:28:10 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/reader-question-handling-pressure-to-apologize/#comment-1551 I agree with you completely. I would not apologize if I didn't feel ready, and never would apologize if I wasn't truly sorry. In searching my memory for occasions where I got pressured to apologize I recall that the relative or friend involved just wanted to put a bandaid on a critical problem in the relationship. They didn't really want to take responsibility for their part or be accountable for their own behavior. Thankfully I can say that when I discover I am out of line I apologize immediately. More than once I've had to apologize to a grandkid for accusing them of something that I later discover they didn't do at all. I agree with you completely. I would not apologize if I didn’t feel ready, and never would apologize if I wasn’t truly sorry.

In searching my memory for occasions where I got pressured to apologize I recall that the relative or friend involved just wanted to put a bandaid on a critical problem in the relationship. They didn’t really want to take responsibility for their part or be accountable for their own behavior.

Thankfully I can say that when I discover I am out of line I apologize immediately. More than once I’ve had to apologize to a grandkid for accusing them of something that I later discover they didn’t do at all.

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