Comments on: Stay-At-Home-Mom: Why My Wife Stays Home With Our Kids

By: Ron

Ron — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 03:23:19 +0000

My wife and I made the commitment that she would stay home with our kids a little over 17 years ago. I gotta tell you, there have been years that it was tough, VERY tough. One year I only made a little over $13,000 — and was never late on my $440/month rent or my $140/month car payment. How we actually made it is beyond me, but our commitment was to our children and their nurturing and development. Today things are much better financially and we have two well behaved teenage daughters and a 10 year old son. They all know my wife and I are highly committed to them and to making sure they’re prepared for life. Another benefit is that WE get to pass on our values to our kids rather than someone else.

By: Aaron Shaw

Aaron Shaw — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 15:51:05 +0000

My wife stays at home with our 6 kids!
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By: Eric

Eric — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:45:45 +0000

I’m a stay at home dad/full time college student as well. I’m no way affected by sociological standards when it comes to being a stay at home parent, but it is a hard job. I don’t get much time for my homework and don’t often have someone to help me, but the idea that I’m the one raising my son and not sending him off to daycare makes it completely worth it. We may be poor, but at least my son will be a better person because I was personally responsible for him.

By: Dan Smith

Dan Smith — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 19:57:13 +0000

As far as financial issues go, you can make it. There’s no reason why not. The only reasons you might not be able to NOW is if the family is over-extended. However, with sacrifice, it can be done.

The first two reasons are great. However, as the husband, make sure you’re ready to support your wife. She will have bad days. The kids will fight back when she tries to discipline, not want that extra attention, love, and teaching, and other things. Please step in and let them know (in a very stern manner) that you support your wife more than you support them. That will help a great deal.
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By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage

Dustin | Engaged Marriage — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 18:08:48 +0000

Jeff,

This is a well-written and very timely post, as my wife and I are struggling a bit with this same choice at the moment. We have two small children, and she is a teacher. Her career offers a great balance because she is home all summer with the kids.

However, lately she has shared feelings that maybe she’d like to stay home after this school year is over. We face the same tough decisions that you have discussed, and it is a HUGE decision. We still have time to decide, but I appreciate the perspective you have offered.

By: Julie E.

Julie E. — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:18:41 +0000

I gave up a full time career that I had worked a long time to obtain. I always thought I would go back, until I held my first child in my arms 8 years ago. My husband and I made a decision to be poor, live on half and enjoy and be there for our children.
Would She Enjoy Staying at Home With the Kids? some days no! Most days, with the right attitude I love it, what if I had missed it! I couldn’t have lived with myself!
Would Our Daughter(s) Benefit From Her Staying at Home? Yes yes and always yes. My kids are the sweetest, most well behaved (got the right consistent disipline from mom) and loved kids! Anyone who says that your children benefit more from the social interaction of day care and preschool are just not thinking!
Would We Be Able to Make It Financially? Well it is a sacrafice to say the least. We had to simplfy our lives, we have some debt..well alot, and we do without much that we had when we were childless and career bound. But our live is richer for it! We are more creative, appreciative and spend more time with each other, than with what money can buy! I now have a flexible part time job that I love, it fits with my life and gives me a little social interaction, creativity and cash…it is possible you just have to be willing to sacrafice. The time is short and before you know it mine will leave to school at 8:30 till 4pm and I won’t know what hit me!
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By: Jeff

Jeff — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 16:09:40 +0000

@FFB – Great to hear from a stay at home dad! Having one parent stay home does give you so much more direct input into your child’s life especially during those early, formative years. I congratulate you for your willingness to invest so much of yourself into your kids!

Thanks for chiming in on this important topic!

By: FFB

FFB — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 13:59:03 +0000

Stay at home dad here! It's definitely a tough decision but if you can pull it off financially then it can be so rewarding! Knowing my kids are raised by me and not a virtual stranger means so much to us. You really have to know you can handle it though. Some days it would be way easier to sit back at my job in front of the computer. .-= FFB´s last blog ..10 Things Similar About Personal Finance And Running The NYC Marathon =-.