Is your life hectic?
It can be very difficult to stick to your goals and resolutions when life is so busy. Our plates are full and yet we want to improve. How can we do it all? Is it even possible?
This is no doubt a dilemma that many of us face. In fact, this article was inspired by a reader comment on my article from a few days ago called Ideas for Overcoming Obstacles to Improvement.
In the article, I talked about how we have a struggle going on inside us that pits comfort against personal improvement. These two desires are often at odds with one another.
In response, Jen (that writes a blog called Inspired!) stated:
“I was doing really well sticking to my resolutions but then work got hectic, life got hectic, I got tired and suddenly it feels impossible to go for that run after work or tidy the house or just keep on top of everything generally.
I can see that there’s a conflict between choosing comfort and choosing to pursue goals which are difficult. But the comfort I’m seeking at the moment isn’t more food or more alcohol but more sleep!”
Set a Goal and Life Gets Hectic
I completely understand Jen’s situation. It is a very common one. Life definitely gets hectic sometimes. In fact, it often seems it happens just after you commit yourself to a goal.
You get inspired, set a goal or resolution, and then WHAM, life comes crashing in on you. The kids get sick, it gets busy at work, the car breaks down and it seems as if your house is about to fall apart. It feels like everything starts working against you.
How do you juggle all life throws at you and still accomplish your goals?
It certainly isn’t easy, but it is possible to make steady progress. How? Well, I’m going to share a few ways that I’ve been able to make this work for me.
By the way, I have a busy full-time job, two kids, a marriage, a home, a blog and plenty of other commitments. So, I can relate to the pressure that Jen and many of the rest of you feel.
Sticking to Your Goals When Things Get Hectic
Here’s my suggestions for sticking to your goals even when life gets hectic:
When you are busy, you’ve got to get intensely focused. You can’t afford to spread yourself across multiple goals. You have to pick one or two that are your absolute top priorities and focus whatever energy you have on these. You’ve got to divide the good from the great here. Good goals are often the enemy of great goals because they spread you too thin. Focus on the great ones that will make the most positive difference in your life and finish these before you tackle anything else.
Is your life dictating that you need more focus?
2. Do the Big Rocks First
In her comment, Jen says, “I got tired and suddenly it feels impossible to go for that run after work or tidy the house or just keep on top of everything generally.” My response? You’ve got to do what is most important to you first each day before you do all the other stuff that wears you out. I don’t have room here to fully explain the Big Rocks technique, but you can read about it and apply it. It works for me. I get up an hour early every day to write articles for this site. If I waited until the end of the day, it would never get done.
Are you accomplishing your big rocks first?
3. Lower Your Expectations
This might sound odd, but when life starts getting in the way, you may have to lower your expectations regarding your goals. Mainly, I’m talking about extending the timeline. It might not be possible to accomplish as much as you originally planned by your target date. Too often, people give up when life gets hectic. Instead, I recommend just lowering your expectations to something more realistic. It might take you longer, but at least you’re still making progress.
Do you need to lower your expectations?
4. Don’t Become the Victim
Finally, when life gets hectic, it is easy to become the victim. You’ve got to guard against this. Don’t let yourself start saying things like, “I would have lost the weight, but my boss assigned me all this extra work and now I don’t have enough time to exercise.” This implies that it was out of your control. That you were just a victim of your circumstances. You make the choice to give up or continue toward your goals. You are not a victim. You either make your goals a priority or you don’t. If you put a goal on the backburner that’s okay, but be sure you accept the responsibility for making the decision.
Are you playing the victim?
A Hectic Life Shouldn’t Kill Your Goals
Life gets hectic for all of us from time-to-time. This is the chance to prove to yourself that you have what it takes to succeed even when times are tough. Sometimes you have to get creative in finding new ways to keep moving forward. Stick to your goals by using the suggestions above to make adjustments, but don’t give up entirely!
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