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]]> By: Patrick http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/comment-page-1/#comment-6735 Patrick Tue, 08 Dec 2009 02:48:15 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/#comment-6735 Definitely thought provoking. It is easy to take the easy route in life, whether it be finances, duty, obligations, etc. But doing the right thing, even if it is more difficult, is almost always more rewarding and better in the long run. Great article. .-= Patrick´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Cashmoneylifecom/~3/XjgHIiRgLf0/" rel="nofollow">Safety Tips For Online Shopping This Christmas Season</a> =-. Definitely thought provoking. It is easy to take the easy route in life, whether it be finances, duty, obligations, etc. But doing the right thing, even if it is more difficult, is almost always more rewarding and better in the long run. Great article.
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]]> By: Jeff http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/comment-page-1/#comment-6734 Jeff Mon, 07 Dec 2009 21:35:38 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/#comment-6734 <b>@Paula and @NMPatricia,</b> First, let me thank you both for commenting on my post. Obviously, I highly encourage couples to stay married, but I do not condemn anyone for being divorced. Life happens. I know a lot of good people that I love very much that have been divorced. At the same time, I don't think we can sweep the ramifications under the rug. I am not naive about divorce and its consequences. My mother and father divorced when I was about 12-13. So, I have firsthand experience when it comes to divorce and its impact on children. I am 44 and it still causes me pain. Has it ruined my life? By no means, but it is baggage that I carry. I'm sure divorce effects different children in different ways, but as someone that went through it myself, I can tell you it is a heartbreaking experience and one that I do not wish upon any child. I agree with you that it takes a lot more than just a mother and father to make a good home. I also agree that there are certain situations where staying married is even worse for the children than getting divorced. For example, I would certainly applaud anyone for leaving a physically or emotionally abusive relationship. I also understand that a marriage cannot survive when one spouse is completely unfaithful. These are just a couple of examples of where staying married is worse than divorce. My hat is off to anyone that has the courage to rescue their children from such an environment. However, I think a large percentage of divorces happen for selfish reasons. One spouse just doesn't feel love toward the other one anymore. One spouse can't handle the responsibility, etc. I think many people get divorced for their own comfort and convenience. These are the people that my comment regarding the duty of marriage is targeted toward. I hope this helps to clarify what I intended. Thanks again for your comments! @Paula and @NMPatricia,

First, let me thank you both for commenting on my post. Obviously, I highly encourage couples to stay married, but I do not condemn anyone for being divorced. Life happens. I know a lot of good people that I love very much that have been divorced. At the same time, I don’t think we can sweep the ramifications under the rug.

I am not naive about divorce and its consequences. My mother and father divorced when I was about 12-13. So, I have firsthand experience when it comes to divorce and its impact on children. I am 44 and it still causes me pain. Has it ruined my life? By no means, but it is baggage that I carry. I’m sure divorce effects different children in different ways, but as someone that went through it myself, I can tell you it is a heartbreaking experience and one that I do not wish upon any child.

I agree with you that it takes a lot more than just a mother and father to make a good home. I also agree that there are certain situations where staying married is even worse for the children than getting divorced. For example, I would certainly applaud anyone for leaving a physically or emotionally abusive relationship. I also understand that a marriage cannot survive when one spouse is completely unfaithful. These are just a couple of examples of where staying married is worse than divorce. My hat is off to anyone that has the courage to rescue their children from such an environment.

However, I think a large percentage of divorces happen for selfish reasons. One spouse just doesn’t feel love toward the other one anymore. One spouse can’t handle the responsibility, etc. I think many people get divorced for their own comfort and convenience. These are the people that my comment regarding the duty of marriage is targeted toward.

I hope this helps to clarify what I intended. Thanks again for your comments!

]]> By: Matt Bell http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/comment-page-1/#comment-6733 Matt Bell Mon, 07 Dec 2009 18:37:27 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/#comment-6733 Some great and challenging thoughts. Brings to mind the Keb Mo song, "Victims of Comfort." .-= Matt Bell´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.mattaboutmoney.com/2009/12/04/a-lesson-from-tiger%E2%80%99s-tale/" rel="nofollow">A Lesson from Tiger’s Tale</a> =-. Some great and challenging thoughts.

Brings to mind the Keb Mo song, “Victims of Comfort.”
.-= Matt Bell´s last blog ..A Lesson from Tiger’s Tale =-.

]]> By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/comment-page-1/#comment-6732 Dustin | Engaged Marriage Mon, 07 Dec 2009 17:44:03 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/#comment-6732 First of all, thank you for reminding me that today was the anniversary of the attack on Pearl Harbor. And thanks for a very insightful article. I love how you have equated characteristics that are often reserved for those serving in the military and given us examples for how we can all employ them in our everyday lives. .-= Dustin | Engaged Marriage´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/EngagedMarriage/~3/9EzFid7l6rY/10-awesome-christmas-gifts-for-married-couples" rel="nofollow">10 Awesome Christmas Gifts for Married Couples</a> =-. First of all, thank you for reminding me that today was the anniversary of the attack on Pearl Harbor.

And thanks for a very insightful article. I love how you have equated characteristics that are often reserved for those serving in the military and given us examples for how we can all employ them in our everyday lives.
.-= Dustin | Engaged Marriage´s last blog ..10 Awesome Christmas Gifts for Married Couples =-.

]]> By: NMPatricia http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/comment-page-1/#comment-6731 NMPatricia Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:30:05 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/#comment-6731 I am with Paula on this one. And unfortunately for Jeff and this post, I am going to take issue with what I see as a blanket condemation of divorce. I was on the brink of suicide living in an emotional abusive relationship. I know the kids were suffering. Do I still have guilt about living a relationship that I promised would be for life? You bet. Don't you think I did everything I could? You bet. I agonized over it for months and consulted experts and friends. Do I still feel guilt for the emotional wreckage that came out of it? You bet. But given it was a choice between living and getting a divorce, I chose the divorce. The kids are better for not living in the bad emotional environment. Not good, but better. I shall always be sad it didn't work out, but I definitely did not take the easy way out. Am I sensitive to this? Obviously. Probably it is people like me who are sensitive to this posting and those who take the easy way off probably aren't readying this blog. I am with Paula on this one. And unfortunately for Jeff and this post, I am going to take issue with what I see as a blanket condemation of divorce. I was on the brink of suicide living in an emotional abusive relationship. I know the kids were suffering. Do I still have guilt about living a relationship that I promised would be for life? You bet. Don’t you think I did everything I could? You bet. I agonized over it for months and consulted experts and friends. Do I still feel guilt for the emotional wreckage that came out of it? You bet. But given it was a choice between living and getting a divorce, I chose the divorce. The kids are better for not living in the bad emotional environment. Not good, but better. I shall always be sad it didn’t work out, but I definitely did not take the easy way out. Am I sensitive to this? Obviously. Probably it is people like me who are sensitive to this posting and those who take the easy way off probably aren’t readying this blog.

]]> By: Paula http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/comment-page-1/#comment-6730 Paula Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:22:27 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/#comment-6730 I agree with most of what you have to say here, with the exception of the duty "...to stay married and raise our kids in a good home with a mother and a father". I think that your statement is a bit naive. It takes a LOT more than a mother and father in the home to make it a good home or to make a good childhood. Some homes are much better environments for the children after the divorce than before. The duty is to be good parents to the children, and that can be done with mom and dad living in different homes. Many divorces are not "taking the easy way out" but are making the difficult choice that is better for everyone. I agree with most of what you have to say here, with the exception of the duty “…to stay married and raise our kids in a good home with a mother and a father”. I think that your statement is a bit naive. It takes a LOT more than a mother and father in the home to make it a good home or to make a good childhood. Some homes are much better environments for the children after the divorce than before. The duty is to be good parents to the children, and that can be done with mom and dad living in different homes. Many divorces are not “taking the easy way out” but are making the difficult choice that is better for everyone.

]]> By: Jason @ Redeeming Riches http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/comment-page-1/#comment-6726 Jason @ Redeeming Riches Mon, 07 Dec 2009 12:27:13 +0000 http://mysuperchargedlife.com/blog/the-epidemic-of-comfort-and-convenience/#comment-6726 Very insightful post! In a society that is ruled by comfort and convenience this is something we need to hear. I really like the antidotes - especially service and sacrifice. Placing our own comfort and needs a little lower on the list so we can lift others up and serve them is hard but it so much more rewarding. .-= Jason @ Redeeming Riches´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/RedeemingRiches/~3/k7UXOLYbuqg/" rel="nofollow">Does Your Money Define You?</a> =-. Very insightful post! In a society that is ruled by comfort and convenience this is something we need to hear. I really like the antidotes – especially service and sacrifice.

Placing our own comfort and needs a little lower on the list so we can lift others up and serve them is hard but it so much more rewarding.
.-= Jason @ Redeeming Riches´s last blog ..Does Your Money Define You? =-.

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