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[...] Top 7 Traits of Interesting and Engaging People [...]

By: Thomas Bohn

Thomas Bohn — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 18:20:59 +0000

The #5 was really best said by Søren Kierkegaard back in 1859:
“If One Is Truly to Succeed in Leading a Person to a Specific Place, One Must First and Foremost Take Care to Find Him Where He is and Begin There.

This is the secret in the entire art of helping.

Anyone who cannot do this is himself under a delusion if he thinks he is able to help someone else. In order truly to help someone else, I must understand more than he–but certainly first and foremost understand what he understands.

If I do not do that, then my greater understanding does not help him at all. If I nevertheless want to assert my greater understanding, then it is because I am vain or proud, then basically instead of benefiting him I really want to be admired by him.

But all true helping begins with a humbling.

The helper must first humble himself under the person he wants to help and thereby understand that to help is not to dominate but to serve, that to help is a not to be the most dominating but the most patient, that to help is a willingness for the time being to put up with being in the wrong and not understanding what the other understands.”

/Thomas

By: Jeff

Jeff — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 13:57:25 +0000

@Positively – People are certainly more interested in us when we take an earnest interest in them. It is just human nature. What is the old saying? Something like – “You have to be a friend to get a friend.”

Good to hear from you!

By: Positively Present

Positively Present — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 14:53:26 +0000

Those are great traits and anyone who possesses those will certainly be an interesting person. I really believe that #5 is so important. People like people who make an effort to understand them, to be engaged in their lives. .-= Positively Present´s last blog ..happiness doesn't just happen =-.