Comments on: What Do You Expect?

By: Jeff

Jeff — Tue, 13 May 2008 18:56:54 +0000

@Mrs. Micah – Obviously, victims like the ones you mentioned do not bring those calamities upon themselves. Of course, how we react to such tragedies is our choice.

@Robin – You are right that unresolved emotional issues can certainly cloud our expectations. These might be best dealt with through some kind of therapy.

@Michael – I agree that a written mission statement is akin to written goals. I just prefer using goals myself because I like the sense of accomplishment. Either one provides the map for where you want to go.

@Ron – Forgiveness is very important to living life to the fullest. Any such negative thinking that we hold onto will have a detrimental impact on our future.

Thanks so much for your comments!

By: Ron@TheWisdomJournal

Ron@TheWisdomJournal — Tue, 13 May 2008 18:39:48 +0000

I would add “Forgive those who have wronged you, whether they deserve it or not, whether they ask for it or not.” Bitterness and a spirit of unforgiveness affects YOU more than them.

By: Michael Miles

Michael Miles — Tue, 13 May 2008 07:15:48 +0000

Wonderful article. This is very essence of what I believe – it all starts in the mid and ripples out into the world. I think writing a personal mission statement can be a very powerful way of keeping on track, providing a compass to guide us through difficult times.

By: Robin

Robin — Tue, 13 May 2008 03:42:44 +0000

Hi Jeff – I think your points about how to have a better life are great. I’d also add that we need to heal ourselves on the feeling level – I see unhealed feelings as the “glue” that hold negative thoughts in place… no matter how much we try to think positively, unhealed feelings will keep negative thoughts in place deep down in the unconscious mind – and these thoughts will keep having their effect.

well on that cheerful note – Cheers!

By: Mrs. Micah

Mrs. Micah — Mon, 12 May 2008 17:59:54 +0000

Great, Jeff. I dislike The Secret because I think it assigns personal responsibility to things like rape, molestation, illness and the Holocaust. I was working with some very sick babies today and there’s just no way they could have brought this upon themselves.

But I think the reason it’s so popular is because it touches on the basic principles that you outline here. Being positive, being proactive make us so much more likely to have good things in our lives. Or to frame what we have as good.

So thanks for writing the REAL secret here!