Does your life seem more difficult than it needs to be?
It sucks when life is hard. It is so depressing and tiring.
You feel completely stuck and it is extremely difficult to figure out why. You want to move on to better things, but somehow you keep bumping up against an invisible obstacle that holds you right where you are. It can be frustrating and downright maddening.
Reasons Your Life Is Hard
“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.”
~ Lou Holtz
I understand just how upsetting it can be when you feel life is being hard on you. That’s why I want to help you figure out what’s going on. However, I need to tell you that it is going to take a little patience and open-mindedness on your part to solve this mystery.
You might read some things below that you don’t like at first. In fact, if you start reading something that really bothers you, that’s probably what you need to hear the most. So, please don’t just click away without reading through and giving these points your full consideration even if they make you mad or upset you in the beginning. Deal? Okay, let’s move on.
Here are three reasons that your life may seem hard:
No one likes to be told they are arrogant. So, right from the start, I’m testing your willingness to really take an honest look at yourself and your attitudes. Are you being stubborn? Sometimes we simply persist on a particular path when life is telling us to go another way. Trying to swim against the current is difficult and it will make your life rocky. You may be too stubborn to admit a) you’ve been wrong, b) you need to change and c) this is the source of your trouble. This is arrogance, plain and simple.
I see this a lot around health issues. You may have a bad habit that is playing havoc with your health, but you don’t want to give it up. This makes your life hard, but you arrogantly persist. Eventually, this will get the better of you. One way or the other, if you ignore the warnings, you will pay and pay and pay. Often difficulties are simply life’s way of telling you that you need to change. Your life would be so much easier and enjoyable if you’d just listen to what it is trying to tell you. Humble yourself and listen. Then be willing to make some adjustments. You’ll be happy you did.
Life can sometimes seem much harder than it has to be simply due to inexperience. You may be facing things you haven’t had to deal with before and that you lack preparation to handle. This can certainly make life seem laborious and painful. When you lack experience with a particular matter, you also lack the skill, judgment and understanding that make things a whole lot easier to handle. This is no fault of yours, but the quicker you realize and admit that your inexperience is an issue, the faster you can fix it.
If you think your difficulties are due to inexperience, then there are a few ways that you can overcome this and make things easier on yourself. Here are some ways I’ve dealt with difficulties due to inexperience in my own life:
- Find a very targeted action plan to guide you – A prewritten plan from someone that’s successfully navigated the waters you’re in right now can be invaluable.
- Find an experienced mentor for advice – A good mentor will have the experience you lack and be able to guide you through the trouble you are facing.
- Find a book that will teach you what you need to know – There seems to be a book on practically every subject imaginable. Find one for your specific needs and educate yourself.
Just because you lack experience doesn’t mean that you have to wallow in it. Take the bull by the horns and get some help to ease the trouble you are facing. Things will smooth out once you do.
3. Pure Circumstances
I’ve lived long enough to know that occasionally, you just hit a rough patch in life that is purely circumstantial. In other words, it is out of your control. You didn’t do anything to deserve what you are getting. God isn’t mad at you. You aren’t being punished. You are just going through a tough time and sometimes when it rains, it pours. It is Murphy’s Law, “Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.” I’ve certainly had a few of these periods in my own life. They are tough, but you can live through it.
When circumstances aren’t going your way, you just have to do your best and keep yourself from slipping off the edge. Remember the old adage, “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.” Unfortunately, these spells can last awhile sometimes. You just have to control what you can and deal with the rest. I wished there was some better advice I had to offer, but once in awhile life gives you an endurance test. Your job is to weather the storm even if it is long and difficult. The one encouraging thing I can tell you is that it will eventually end. The sun will rise again. Trust me, better days are ahead for you if you just keep plugging along doing the best you can.
What Is Making Your Life Hard?
Okay, so did any of this help? Have you decided what is making your life hard? Is it arrogance, inexperience or just plain old circumstances? Figuring this out is the crucial first step toward making things better. Usually, just thinking about it in these ways helps. You are going to get through this and when you do, the happiness you experience will be that much sweeter.
Tell me about your difficulties in the comments section. Often, writing out your troubles will help you organize your thoughts about them. Plus, you might help someone else along the way.
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